[Opus]

Pip - Just lending my cyber support here.

As Maia said, relationships ebb and flow, perhaps you both need some time away from each other. You have many friends here, feel free to vent anytime.

[Leigh131313]

Just some hugs..

Leigh

[Mommy24]

Hey Pip Just wanted to send ya I hope things work out soon, a break is never a bad thing Always here if you need to vent.

Michelle

[lyndalou]

Hi All~ Pip, My heart goes out to you! What's with people dissing you to him? Who are these people? What nerve! Don't they understand how fragile these relationships are? We do, & we're here for you! Keep up the faith... you may need a break, but it will all fall into place, even if it takes years. xo

[Poolside]

I'm sorry to see this tonight. You are so wonderful, it's a shame he's acting inappropriately. Other have said it, and your DH is there for you, but you deserve love and respect. You know when to draw the line. Be strong, and know that you are right.
I think I read that he is still young? I pray for you and your sanity it's a phase he is going through and it won't always be this difficult. Do what is best for you. Come here for cyber hugs as often as you need.

[Montraviatommyg]

I'm feeling so overwhelmed by the support I'm getting here that I feel almost stupid for letting comments get to me so much. My son is angry about things that have been written/said to him that he he is taking it out me . What annoys me is that the latest person who wasn't nice about me doesn't even know me and only commenting because of what was said about me. Yet the person who told her about me used to be a friend so I don't know why she is being nasty now as I have good memories of her. However I do know some of the nastiness has come from my family including my parents (apparently). My sister and I haven't spoken to each other for 7 years now due to lies she told back in 1998 which could have got my dh and I into serious trouble. She reported us for fraud which was stupid as there was no prove whatsoever she just did it out of spite. Fortunately the fraud officer didn't believe her but he still had to investigate so he was very apologetic the whole time. I have had a poor relationship with my mum since my teens but I still find it hard that my dad has put me down that much. From what I can gather the other nastiness has come from my brother-in-laws (dh's brothers) ... one I can believe as we don't get on with him anyway but not of the other as we do get on with him. The rest of the nasty comments comes from his "bdad's" family which wouldn't suprise me as we split up on bad terms due to his cousin telling lies to both him and myself. I didn't believe the lies as I knew why she was doing it but I couldn't prove it.

Poolside, my son is now 24 yrs old, he had just turned 23 yrs old when I found him by accident ... he had been searching since he was 18. So yes he is still young and I do have to remind myself of that times so need to make allowances.

Pip

[eastendmommy]

Pip, I am so sorry that your reunion has taken this unexpected turn. I never would have sent you the PM that I did, if I had only read this thread first... I'm sorry. I feel as if I was gloating over my good news, when you have some pretty sad news on your front porch... Again, I'm sorry. Wasn't my intention. I truly hope that your son just needs to mature a bit, and get his priorities straight - and in order - for you to have a successful reunion. I have admired you from the moment I first came to the forums. You have a real knack for drawing people close to you, and for being able to say the right thing at the right time, IMO. I always enjoy reading what you've posted, and I can't tell you how many times that your advice has been spot-on! You do need to take care of yourself, though. I hope that this reprieve is just what the doctor ordered, and good comes of it. Have patience (oh, how I despise that word...!), and know that you have many, many friends here who care deeply about your well-being. Great big hugs to you, my friend. Tammi

[Montraviatommyg]

Tammi, no worries I was so pleased for you and your good news so please, please keep it coming I needed to read about it . I'm much better today as I had some great advice yesterday and an original mum rang me up as well last night which did me the world of good. We had a serious chat but she does have a wicked sense of humour as well so I was laughing before long. I've had my vent, got it off my chest, taken a deep breathe and am now focussing on looking after myself .

Hugs
Pip

[janiej]

Good for you Pip. You are a strong woman, we all know that. But strength can only go so far in a situation like yours. Vent all you need to. And please, never, ever, feel "stupid" for letting things get to you. You are human, after all ( aren't you ??? ).

None of us know what goes on in another's heart or head. We just plug along the best we can, and thank God that there is a place like this to come to when we need help, or comfort, or a smile, or just someone to "listen".

So please do focus on YOU for a change. It's what I am trying to do at the moment too, so you are not alone !

[Montraviatommyg]

Originally Posted by janiej

Good for you Pip. You are a strong woman, we all know that. But strength can only go so far in a situation like yours. Vent all you need to. And please, never, ever, feel "stupid" for letting things get to you. You are human, after all ( aren't you ??? ).

Well I was the last time I looked ... hehehe ... hope there isn't a full moon tonight . I had an appointment with my new doctor today so that helped as well as she is really nice.

Pip

[Montraviatommyg]

Sigh ... I accidently posted the same post twice so have edited this one ... don't I know I'm getting back to normal .

Pip

[Jessiedo]

Pip,
I sincerely hope things smooth out for you soon! From what I gather, you have had quite alot to manage for some time. Perhaps a break is well needed. Take care of yourself...pamper yourself...stay strong!

[anifish]

Pip, As you know I have stopped posting on the forums but had to make an exception for this,

I am so sorry, I understand how your heart must be broken, words that are spoken with the intention to hurt are the worst kind, when we are hurting we do things that we don't think about. Not untell afterwards, not untell its to late. I pray that time will heal both of your hearts.

You have always been there for me Pip, through my search, lifting me up when I needed it. Teaching me respect for the birthmom, teaching me about her decisions, about her pain, about her loss, about her strength, Who she was. What she was thinking during the time she had to relinqish her child. Her choices and her reasons, sometimes that might include giving the name of bdad. I feel that most of you here love your children with all your hearts, and did whatever you could have to keep them safe and loved, I think that in time as A grows up, and finds what he is looking for in this journey he will realize that about you. I have known that about you all this time, you would have never gone to all the trouble sending me long, endless, needed emails, when I wanted a friend. The true beauty of who you are is so easy for all of us to see. It is in all of your posts, Everything will be ok in time I am so sorry your sad though, know that I am thinking of you, I am here,,

Love, Ani

[Montraviatommyg]

Ani,

I was so choked by your post yesterday that I couldn't respond so thank you now for your lovely words. Today I feel stronger and am coping better.

Love ya

Pip

[cute]

PIP: You jare staying strong and that is oh so good...
We all know the sadness inside but we most certainly will try to make you smile as you get through this....at the end of the day all will be wel.!!!!
Jessiedo: Thank you for the lovely green light.