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billysmommy · #46 10-23-2006, 11:14 AM

I've had your story bookmarked for quite a while and have just gotten around to reading it - through tears. I am an amom to two children placed at birth by the same first mom, and so your story especially touched me.
Thanks for sharing.

browneyes0707 · #47 10-23-2006, 12:31 PM

Tigger:

Wow, what an amazing story!! You are one strong lady, and I can't help but to admire that. I can relate to all the emotions you describe and then some.

May the years be good to your realtionship with your girls and their respective families!!

***Tigger27*** · #48 10-23-2006, 12:37 PM

Thanks so much, billysmommy. I'm glad to hear that my story touched you as it did

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***Tigger27*** · #49 10-23-2006, 12:40 PM

Thanks for your comments, browneyes

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I was glad to hear that things are going well for you now that you've had a response from your daughter's amom and hope things continue to progress and go well for you with that also

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PastorStephanie · #50 12-10-2006, 03:43 PM

Tigger27... your story was an eye opening one for me. Beautiful and touching. I have never heard the intimate details of how it felt to be a first mom, in the process of saying good-bye. Reading about how you treasured those moments with your daughters really touched my heart.

I am in reunion with my bmom. We have an amazing relationship.... but one thing that she said that always struck me wrong. She told me how she never regreted her decision to place me because she always knew it was right. (I guess I took that to mean that it was easy). You made the a similar statement about your expereince but then went onto explain the painstaking heartbreak about your relinquishment process and I could hear the love you have for your daughters in your words.

Your honest detailed story helped me to realize that my bmom likely expereinced something similar but was just unable to put it in words. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences... it was extremely healing for me to read!

***Tigger27*** · #51 12-10-2006, 04:49 PM

Pastor Stephanie,

Thanks so much for your comments and compliments on my story. I'm glad that reading it could help you as it has.

I'm so happy for you that you're in reunion with your bmom and that you are able to have a wonderful relationship with her. I hope that things will continue to go well for you with your bmom and your relationship with her

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jdzyymala · #52 12-10-2006, 10:29 PM

ann, after i read pastor's thoughts, i thought of my daughter joyce [passed 83 ]how she felt. you did put it into beautifuls words of love for all & your daughters
much love to all, nana jane

***Tigger27*** · #53 12-11-2006, 05:18 AM

Thanks, Nana Jane

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***kakuehl*** · #54 12-12-2006, 10:03 PM

Hi Anne,
Just checking in on the latest posts. If I can chime in on your answer to PastorStephanie: I too have always said I made the right decision. That doesn't mean that it was an easy decision or that I didn't and don't care deeply. It was a LONG 33 years. And I still think it was the right decision for him. I don't know if an adoptee can ever really accept that. I imagine it's hard to not feel rejected. I only know I love D as deeply as the two I raised. (Perhaps even more deeply... he is my firstborn!)

It is so hard to see the other side(s) in adoption apart from our emotions. Anne, it's great that sharing your story helps others grow in understanding.

***Tigger27*** · #55 12-13-2006, 05:37 AM

Ya know, Kathy, I was just thinking the other day about this thread with my story here and I have to say that I really am amazed with how much sharing my story here has been able to help others.

I never would have thought that sharing my story here would be able to help and touch so many.

Treasuring My Gift · #56 12-13-2006, 10:58 AM

I'm an A-mom and your story reminded me a lot of our daughters placement. Through a series of coincidences/miracles, we were able to spend about three weeks prior to our daughters birth with her birth family. We were able to share their joy in our daughter's birth and also in their grief in placing her for adoption. We were there when she signed the papers through her own tears and honestly I don't know how she did it. It made it difficult for us to take our daughter home knowing there was so much grief involved. On the hand, it has really made us dedicated to open adoptions. Besides thinking it will be better for our daughter in the long run, we feel it has been a way to give something back to our daughter's birth family and help make the grief more bearable. Thanks for your story. I'm sure it has helped other birth mothers and I think it's really important that adoptive parents hear stories like yours too, so we understand the sacrifice that came to allow us to have our children.

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