[RandynKS]

I'm not sure how to start this story, but I'll try at the beginning and try not to make it too long.

I fell in love my freshman year in college, madly, deeply and truly. We had some very good times, made some very good memories and made some mistakes. The result of one of those mistakes was a baby, one that I have never seen, one that I signed away about this time 30 years ago. He was born in December of that year.

Since then I have seen his birthmom only once, in 1977. We lost touch after that, not having any contact at all. During that time, from 77 until now I have married, divorced and remarried. I have 2 grown children from my first marriage and added 3 grown children to that fray with my second marriage. My 2 children have known about their brother for about 8 years. Both of my wives have known as well. There wasn't a week go by that there were thoughts of both my son and his birthmom. They lived in my heart for 30 years, even though they weren't physically present in my life.

On October 1st, 2005, I was at a meeting. I arrived home about 9:20 at night. My wife said that some woman had called and wanted to know if I was the Randy that had been on Guam and then in Virginia. When my wife siad yes, she said she would call back later, without leaving anymore information than that, she hung up.

I went through what felt like the longest 20 minutes of my life, I could think of only 2 women who it cold have been and I ruled out one of them almost immediately. The call came, it was the birthmom. After 28 years of not knowing, there she was. I had to sit down, I couldn't think straight. She had been contacted by an intermediary earlier in the year and was told that our son was looking. She corresponded with him via this intermediary for some time and then finally agreed to know him, exchange personal information. She has met him, has held him.

She had called because he wanted my medical history, maybe more. I hope it would be more. I wrote it out, along with a breif personla history in case he wanted to know more about me. I mailed it to her. She and Ihave been on a rollercoaster getting to know one another again. It's been a blast. She forwarded my medical info to our son, he initially didn't want photos or other information, but a couple of days later decided that he wanted to know. She sent the rest of the information. It was the longest week I have ever known in my life.

He received the information this past Monday, in the mail. I had an email from him that afternoon. I have spoken to his wife on the phone, I was up until amost 2 AM this morning chatting with the two of them through instant messages.

Though I am jealous and envious of his bithmom because she has been able to see him, to hold him, I know my time will come. He told me last night that he sees both her family and m,ine playing an important part in his life. His parents are fully supportive of his desire to find us and are happy he has been able to end his search, which I have been told started 13 years ago.

As this progresses, I will post more information. The full reunion has not yet happened, and I guess it really can't be call a REunion, since I never have seen him, so maybe it can just be called a union.

On another note, my two children, a married daughter who is 24 and a son who is 22 in two weeks have both emailed him. They are completely supportive and I think we are all going to have some great times ahead!

Thanks for listening (reading?) I hope my story can be of help for at least one person who might be struggling as I did for 30 years. There is hope.

[mlassi]

Wow. Please keep up posted!!
Mary

[RandynKS]

I received mail this morning from my son, pictures. I had sent some of me as I was growing up, I had promised him that. I hope to send more. His email this mornig had picturs of him as he grew. It was nice seeing the transformation from boy to man, pictures of him as a baby that I never knew.

He opened the email with "Dad".

[michellemartin]

Wow! Congrats on your "union" .

I hope you stick around here, there are so many people who've gone through this and some say it is a rollercoaster ride of feelings that come flooding back.

Good luck with your new relationship .

[RandynKS]

I couldn't agree more about the rollercoaster, but it's been a great ride so far! My wife and I have chatted with he and his wife online, more with his wife because of his work schedule. We look forward to much more. He has indicated that he would like to have my family and his birthmother's family as an important part of his life. I hope we can do this. she and I have resetablished the friendship we had so many years ago. It will never be the same between us as it was then, it can't be, but we can be friends and we can share in the life of a son who wants us to be a part of it.

I look forward to the opportunities and challenges this new chapter in my life will provide.

[RiverGal]

Randy ~How exciting this must be for you! What a "feel good" post to read!

Give your precious wife a special hug for being so supportive and involved. Just before reading this, I was reading another thread where the exact opposite was going on. Sounds like you have married quite a gem!

Please keep us updated on the progess, and I wish you all the best for the future.

~Deb