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Originally Posted By birthmom Jamie

my ways that I am healing after 14 months

talk to friends about him

avoid negative people

cling to positive people

the adoption sites

read about adoption

learn about the various phases of grief

write a journal for him for when he gets older to let him know my feelings

fill his void with pictures of me ,his birth family & my friends, write down my words & video tape my world

find a support group with the same level of openness

visit support groups of different openness levels to gain knowledge

cry

become actively envolved in the adoption world to help others.

read about adoptees emotions

learn my boundries & responsibilities as a birthmother

trust in Jesus & ask for his help when I am broken

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Originally Posted By bina

Hi birthmom jamie
thank you for the list of what helps you heal.
I want to ask your advice if you don't mind. I am an amom who is in an open adoption since June. I'm worried about both the bmom and bdad.. they are both young, both started but dropped out of college this fall one got a dui and the other one nearly od'd on drugs.
What can I do to help them? I have offered to pay for counselling for them. I pray for them. And on thursday we are going to have the first visit with the bdad.
What should I do? What would help?
thanks bmjamie. I have read many of your posts and admire you and wish you all the best.
thanks.
bina