[lora k]

My sisters niece is due October 2nd, she's 17 now, and will be 18 in June. The father is 16. Both have dropped out of high school, the father works at McDonald's. My niece can't keep a job. She was fired from the same McDonald' s and recently quit another job, saying there was sexual harrassment. We don't know what to believe due to she's a pathological liar. She's been saying she' s getting her GED for the last year, who knows what she's really doing. My stupid sister doesn't follow up on anything and even if she did hardly ever calls me or my mom to tell us what's happening. My parents have been separated, my moms72 and my dads 76. My dad is a hateful , bigoted person. The baby will by biracial, and he's disowned my niece, and screamed at my sister. I want to try to look at this thing positively, due to my niece wants to keep the baby, and breastfeed. What i'm worried about is her past lack of motivation with school, no other interests at all, except drinking, and hanging out with friends. She's applied for medicaid and my sister's insurance will cover the birth, and up to a month afterwards. I told my niece I'd be glad to babysit for her, and she was delighted. But my sister swings between trying to get her an abortion , or doing an adoption, and my niece is screaming at her and wants to keep the baby.My sister is divorce d, her spouse is in prison, and remarried. She lives with a 48 yr. old boyfriend with 3 kids of his own part time over at her house. Her other daughter is barely in school, and has had legal problems. My sister just got a DUI. She's been drinking due to stress and an eating disorder. My mom's about ready to loose her mind, and all I can do is cry and obsess over baby clothes. Do you think this is a hopeless situation, or is there any hope? I'd love to be happy , due to I could never have a baby, and had to adopt. I love children. Am I and my mom being emotional, unrealistic, and selfish, or loving, and caring? Is there any way my sister can give the baby up for adoption if the birth mom wants to keep it, or does she need a lawyer?

[Ragnarok]

It is your niece's baby. If she wants to keep it, that is her prerogative.

[Montraviatommyg]

At the end of the day if your niece wants to keep the baby there is nothing really anybody can do as hard as it is for you. There are so many people out there who would make good parents and yet you are stuck in the middle of a situation that sounds awful.

I wish I could give you constructive advice but all I can suggest is that you carry on behaving as a concerned aunt - your heart is obviously in the right place. If your niece will listen to you let her know you will be there if she needs support (without letting her walk over you).

My thoughts are with you.

Montravia

[SchmennaLeigh]

If the niece wants to keep the child, she can. It is hers.

The fact that you would want to forcefully remove a child from someone who wants to parent is called COERCION.

Please treat this expectant mother with some respect. Thank you.