[ldwalker]

I hurt on the inside because no one will tell me who she is.
I am 31 years old if you know anything or know anyone please help me..
I have no ideal whether or not I was born in the city or the county. I was born, hopefully in St. Louis, MO. I was born May 3, 1973. I am 31 years old. (This is my adopted name) My real name is LaShonda and I do not know my surname. (I think!) Unfortunately, my adoptive will not help me in my search for my birth identity. I am female. I am black/Afro-American. My birthmother went to Beaumont High School and she had me at 15 years old. I was told that I lived in foster care until they adopted me. Could someone please help

[angela m thomas]

it must be awful. what is the reason your aparents wont tell you anything about your birthmom? i would keep asking. do you know the hospital you were born in? i would be asking for records. i would also tell your amom that you love her and your grateful that she took you in and nothing would ever change that but you would really like to meet your birthmom and know the reason she gave you up. tell your amom know matter what happens between you and your birthmom when you two meet it will never take the love away that you have for her. tell her if she just keeps putting you off that you will have resentment for her. know matter how your birthmom was when she was young she has probally changed for the best. explain to her that you need this for closer. best of luck!!

[blankenb4]

HAVE YOU TRIED CONTACTING SOCIAL SERVICES IN YOUR STATE?
HAVE YOU REGISTERED WITH THE ISRR? POST ON AS MANY SITES AS YOU CAN FIND. THERE ARE TONS OUT THERE.

GOOD LUCK IN YOUR SEARCH.

BARBARA

[SKiefer]

Contact the agency that handled your adoption if you can find it. Also are you near the highschool she attended? Go check out their yearbooks - You'd be surprised what you would find and how long memories last.

In regards to your amom - give her time - she may come around but please remember that her feelings are valid but you do need to do what is best for you.


Good Luck.

[ldwalker]

I have gone thru Divison of Family Services. found out the adoption agency where i was at. only these folks want me to give them $425 for them to give me my file...$125 for non-identifying information. Okay, this is ridilous. my adoptive parents said they would sign whatever i need to be signed. Unfortunately, the problem is i just don't see paying this woman money thru the adoption agency that kinda of money....Look I work to pay bills and provide for my children. etc. and i go to school. You understand...this is a ripoff...I have been trying to contact the montel williams shows and etc. no help yet. I mean I am not giving up...but, i am just feeling sorry for self for a couple days. i will snap out ...i am a big girl.anyway, what other alternative could i do?

[ldwalker]

also i have contact them they are the ones charging me big money. yearbooks ...wow...i did that like a needle in a hay stack...