[JenZippy]

Well, I've read through I few other posts on here and I can't help but feel a little out of place. I, too, am searching for my birthmother. It was that search that led me here. However, I was not a child of adoption.

I grew up believing Mom and Dad were exactly that. When I was 13 (due to some innocent sibling rivalry) my parents pulled me aside and told me their story. Or their version of the truth.

My dad raised me for 2 years or more alone after my birth mother and he divorced. It was an ugly situation and I know very little about it. Basically, I found out that my brother was actually my step brother and my mom was my step mom. She will always be Mom to me, but as you can imagine, this information came as a shock. Since I have always been mature for my age, I had the sense not to react because I could see that my (step)mom was having a very difficult time with this. She was afraid I wouldn't love her anymore.

My father insists he had no more information to give me than this:

1) My birth mother's maiden name.
2) And that if I see her to get child support.
3) She was in the Air Force

*eye roll* Right. So, I am now 21 and estranged from my father and (step)mom because of extenuating circumstances. I would love to find my birthmother just to see the woman who gave me my eyes, hair, cheeks and (hopefully) my dreamer's heart. I still love my parents very much, but I can not ignore this pull to find her. I am very luck in that my brother and I are incredibly close.

If you finished this, THANK YOU, and if you have any advice or just want to talk, I'd appreciate it!

[Jubie]

Don't ever give up on finding your mother. If it's meant to be it will happen.

I looked for my birth mother on and off for years, sometimes other things took proirity. I finally went to welfare and found her maiden name, only to find her brother who told me that mum had passed when I was 18. if only, I had really looked for her back then. I would have loved to have told her I turned out okay and that she did the best she couldat the time.

On the up side, I found her brother (who sent me photos), 7 siblings and a birth father who I was told had died before I was born!! It was great to meet them all.

Anyway, good luck and don't give up.