[bromanchik]

Originally posted by prolife4life

I hope this is of some help to you and answers your questions.

I does. I think I'll do a bit of research to find out if there is anything current on this for adoption.

[patrisha]

I am one of those birth mothers that had another child within 2 years of my son's placement. It was not a conscientious decision, but I know when I found out I was pregnant again, my life seemed to regain meaning and direction I know it had lost.

I'm sure reunited adoptees wonder why they were placed and a child born so closely behind them was kept. The "replacement" theory seems to make sense to me. No matter how sound a placement decision was, it still felt wrong somehow. Instead of being able to go forward and "get on with my life" as I was assured I would be able to, I was stuck trying to fill a void by mostly trial and error. It wasn't until I got pregnant with my daughter that I began to focus and move on with my life. This is just my experience, but I have heard variations within our group.

I would also like to say to prolife4life that I have encountered many anti abortionists that consider themselves "activists". You are the true soldier of your movement. It is one thing to preach, another to open your heart and home to really make a difference in even one life. Your have my deepest respect regardless of my politics.

Trish

[Dianna]

Sacramento1 has posted once and never come back to this 7 page thread. It seems like it has been a great discussion for others around the dynamics of the birthmother's situation, motivations for placing and degrees of support.