[Addie02]

It is only two days till my daughter birthday, and I have not heared from the a-parents sinces they moved. We had a pretty open adoption until then. We sent pictures and talked on the phone. We met once a year around her birthday. It has now been 4 months since I heard from them and they have moved out of state. They called and told me they were moving and when they know there new phone and adress they would let me know. That is the last I heard. A-mom said she had a ton of pictures for me and everything. Now I am wondering if I will ever hear from them. Her birthday is two days away and nothing has come yet. I am real hurting right now. It is affecting everything. I am having trouble consintrating on work and school. I really don't know what to do. Any suggestions. Any one have a similar situation.

[sspete]

I am So Sorry you have to endure the pain of being told you will be able to see pictures and have updates and then the story changes!!! What a nightmare!!

If you know what state and city they are in you could possibly do a people search on them finding their new address and phone number!!! If indeed you do find them this way I would approach them with a letter telling them you would love your annual pictures and update!!!! Hopefully, they will be easy to find, and will GLADLY start sending you pictures again!!!!

I am wishing you the VERY best of luck with this. I cannot imagine how you are feeling!!! If you cannot locate them you just have to wait and pray they come around eventually. You are truly at their mercy!!! It is unfortunate, but true!!!

Staci

[jessicab52]

If you went through an agency then you should be able to call them and find their new adress. If they wont give it to you then ask them if they can find out what is going on. I know everything is different for every agency and for every state, but when I signed papers, it was written that we (as in the a-parents and myself) have to keep each other updated on all information. I am soo sorry that has happened to you, but I hope I have helped in some way! Good luck!!

[AMom2Two]

Maybe things are hectic with them with the move and all. I don't know if they have children in new schools also. Sometimes, when birthdays fall near holidays, it seems easier to send a package to cover it all. I doubt they forgot you and dropped off all contact. That is a pretty heartless thing to do. Do you feel this couple did not have a heart? I am hoping that maybe, time just flew bye for them and before they know it, they have a birthday, halloween and here we go into the holidays. I know when you move, your life gets turned upside down. It's no excuse but maybe, just maybe that is what might have happend...


Please don't give up hope yet! I usually send my daughers pictures after her birthday so that the bparents can see the birthday celebration! I hoped I helped....Bye

[cathy102]

Even if we moved, I would NEVER not call or send the updated pictures to my daughters birthmom...They should of atleast called you. Even if they are so busy right now. To me, there just isn't an excuse. I'm so sorry that you are hurting. I do pray that they will call you and send your pictures.

Take care,

Cathy

[Perfect_Mother2]

I am sorry that you havent heard from the adoptive parents yet. Did you have a chance to personally pick the Adoptive parents? Do you like them? Do you trust them? Sometimes all you can do is pray and trust that your daughters new parents will take great care of her. Do you know why they moved? Are they afraid that you may want your child back? I am an adoptive parent and sometimes we are scared that Birtmom may change their mind or want your child back.

[logged_in]

Hi,
My son will be 2 on the 5th of November.....his adoptive parents also moved..but they moved about 3 blockes from my house. It seems like that is a great thing....but when I am on my way to my friends house, or to school..i see them together...getting in the car or going out....it is really bothering me. I want to run over and give my son a hug...but I doon't want his aparents to think I am stalking them.They did not know where I lived when they moved....so it was not like they did it on purpose..but what are the chances? If you wanna talk e-mail me...my sons birthday i am dreading..so I know where you are comming from..I would love to talk.
I need some support on the 5th..if you need any...I will do what I can.
Take care...
Marcie- marcielaking66@hotmail.com (i use msn....we'll talk)

[KellyR]

Addie,
It breaks my heart to read posts like yours. We are prospective adoptive parents and reading posts like yours has given me such insight into the *vital importance* of only making promises you can keep and *KEEPING* the promises you make. I'm *so* sorry this is happening. Four months is a long time to hear nothing after their move. It baffles me that someone with a conscience could do that!

[Addie02]

I have great news. The a-parents called this weekend. They apologized for not getting ahold of me before her b-day. They also gave me the new address and number and there e-mail. A-mom email me new Pictures. She is sooo big and the cutest little girl ever. They also said that they will be in the area for Christmas and would love to meet up. I am sooo glad they called. When her b-day came and went I broke down and thought I would never hear from them, but they called the next day. Thanks for all the support.

[cathy102]

So glad to hear that they called!!! Now you can take it easy and not worry about it anymore!!!! That is great that you get to spent the Holiday with them..They do sound like they care for you alot!!!

Hugs and take care,

Cathy

[sspete]

WOW!!!! That is GREAT News!!!! I Know you were thrilled to tears to hear from them!!! Blessings to You....

Staci

[KellyR]

Oh, Addie! I am so happy for you!