[Caedwyn]

Since he's male, young and in college I would recommend just sending him a note, telling him who & where you are, how to contact you if he so desires, offer to provide any and all family and medical information he may ever want or need, and then tell him you will completely back off. That's not stalking, it's consideration. He may want to know about you, but he may not. One cannot make a choice if there is no choice to make. So, give him a choice. Let HIM decide what he wants to do - make it clear that if he EVER wants to contact you in the future he will be more than welcome to do so, and if he decides he does not, then you will respect that decision.

One thing that birthparents (at least mine) don't seem to get is, the adoptee has NO CONTROL over this situation whatsoever. When it comes to the reunions, we should be given the right to set the pace.