[callystalynn]

I recently found my BF and we had a really good conversationa and were going to meet. Then he calls my ** and tells her that he doesn't have time for all of this and me. I reacted with anger, which probably wasn't smart. I later wrote an e-mail and apologized. He wrote me back saying that basically all I've done is lied to him and that he would never allow his family,(2 half brothers) to meet me. He also told me that I shouldn't meet my grandmother, who was going to come to meet me for Thanksgiving, or my uncle. How do I approach this. I never lied to him and I never did anything wrong other then let him know how I feel. Has this ever happened to anyone else?

[slmon]

Ah, hun please don't think that you did anything wrong or that there's something wrong with you. Your bf - in saying that you "lied" is probably just covering up for his own shame a/o guilt. And now, after unfairly teasing you with the good initial conversation, he is evading you with a zillion excuses - probably what he did to your ** x number of years ago! Anyway, you may want to lay low for a bit to see if he gets his head together at all on the issue. Most importantly, don't let him make you feel unworthy. If anyone's unworthy, it's him as he's still running from life. Good luck and take care of yourself.

[Montraviatommyg]

You haven't done anything wrong and having the courage to approach him is a good thing but I feel he should have been more diplomatic towards you. If he doesn't want any contact with you it is his loss - maybe he has good reasons for his behaviour but he could have put it better.

I don't know what is worse your situation or what my bson went through. He found his bfather before me and has been totally rejected by him - his bfather denies being my bson's father and his wife has lied and told him the dates are all wrong. I became pregnant just before we split up so she doesn't have a clue what she's talking about. My bson felt deep anger towards me as he was convinced I was lying about who his bfather yet I hung on in there and picked up the pieces so we just don't bother talking about it now as he accepts the situation now.

There are no easy answers and I agree with what was put in the other reply so we both can't be wrong!

Good luck,
Montraviatommygun