[dmalley]

Hi i am new to all of this. I am currently in the training course for becoming a foster parent. What can i expexct from the Home study? What are they looking for? I am a little nervouse they said they would like to talk with our ex spouses. I don't mind them talking with my ex husband at all i am a little concered if the talk with my husbands ex wife. They had a very bitter divorce that lasted for 3 years. Plus my husband is estranged from his parents they have not spoken in 2 years. We will be very honest about this when it is time for the study. I guess i am wondering how this would effect our chances.

[Sam-N-Tony]

I'm suprised that they want to speak to the ex'es (sp?). I don't think a relationship that was probably unhealthy (that's why it ended in divorce) should have any value on your current healthy relationship.

I would just suggest to be upfront and honest about all of your relationship issues, with parents and ex'es.

I would be concerned with the estrangement of your dh relationship with his parents, since it is fairly recent. I have a fairly rocky relationship with my Dad but it has always been that way. I was just upfront with my worker about some of feelings regarding my father.

I think ultimately they would look to see if you still have some family/friend support.

The best thing you can do is be HONEST. Good luck.

[dmalley]

Thank you for the response.
My Family and our friends are very supportive of us becoming foster parents. I know they have given us great refrences. I am to a little concered about his Parents as well. We will be honest about everything they ask.