Depending one what kind of dirt you're talking about, I think it is a GOOD sign!! My mom taught a little girl a number of years ago, who has always dressed in clean, pristine little outfits and her hair nicely done. Saddest kid I ever saw. She was finally removed from her home after details of abuse and neglect were brought up (and the neglect in this case largely concerned not feeding her - the mom was anorexic and didn't want her little girl to get "fat". She also was never allowed to "do" ANYTHING - she was locked in her room with books and toys anytime she wasn't at school, she was required to look perfect and otherwise be invisible. Apparently mom valued APPEARANCE if nothing else). Anyway, long story short - she went into foster care, and within a few months, this kid was PLAYING!!! She was coming to school in play clothes, she was frequently dirty, and her hair got messy and tangled - and she was suddenly so much more happy and healthy :-)
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Originally Posted by aimeek
singn63 - I feel the need to clarify what I said earlier. The child did not actually have dirty clothes, the birth parent said that he did. I also do not see dirty clothes as a form of neglect. My kids get dirty - they play outside and are toddlers. No I do not send them to visits in dirty clothes, but if you come by the house late in the afternoon odds are the kids will be dirty. I have too many clothes to wash already that I do not feel the need to change them everytime they get a speck of dirt on them.
But I do give them a bath before bed and they put on clean pj's. I think that kids need to be allowed to be kids - with guidance.
Aimee
bs D 11 years
fd L 3 years
fs T 1 year
fd D 4 months
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