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you don't have to foster to adopt a child from foster care...you can get a homestudy for free or low cost through you local social services or some agency doing special needs adoption...also if you are strong in your faith just about every major religon has a faith base program that is inexpensive for infant adoption....in the military? they have programs....If you are African American, they have programs in most states....

I lost foster kids I had for 14 months who were returned to a b-mom who always tested positive for cocain and was living in a motel and didn't do one thing or her reunification plan....and I can't imagin that loss being any less severe then loosing a birth child...

On the up side, most foster kids are adopted by their foster parents....I foster adopted 2 of my kids.....and more kids are going up for adoption then ever before due to the Safe Families Act of 1997...

Foster care isn't easy...it was hard to take kids on visit...see them leave and returned to bad places, etc...