[garry970]

I got a call about 2:10p.m. on Thusday from my agency to meet 2 boys, ages 7 and 9 on Friday morning. I told them that I would accept these boys because they had no bad history, in fact , the 9 yo had high marks in his current school. The worker said the the 7yo sometimes wet the bed, so I knew to put a mattress cover on my shopping list.

They boys were already in relative placement with their aunt, but the mom (who is on drugs) kept showing up to take them away.

The plan is for mom to go to re-hab, and eventually get the kids back. But, if mom doesn't cooperate, they may go up for adoption, which I may consider, if it comes to that.

There are 2 other siblings in separate foster homes.

Anyway, the next morning I was so nervous, my teeth were chattering on the way to the agency. LOL.

The boys were just as nervous (the case worker was nice enough to buy them breakfast, and they didn't hardly eat any).

They already had plenty of summer clothes, but they need winter stuff, updated shoes, more socks and underpants.

The 9yo adjusted immediately to me before we left the agency. The 7yo open up more once we left. I later took them shopping for school supplies in time for their new school on Monday.

They loved their room (whom they will share with my 12yo bio son when he comes over on weekends [he is at a friends this weekend]).

They have bunk beds, playstation2, TV, VCR, and Computer (no internet), and plenty of toys. I also have my bio son's old bike, which they will share.

Of course, it seems like I am spoiling them already, but they will lose access to some of the above if they are grounded.

So far, the only problem I am having is with the 7yo. He wants to see his mom. He started crying for her Friday evening, but he cheered up quickly as I re-assured him they he will hopefully get to see her soon during family visitation.

Today, I asked him if he was getting used to being here, and he said "no, not yet", and I told him it's OK. His older brother, however, told me yesterday that he was already getting used to being here.

But tonight, they were asking me about Halloween costumes, so at least they seem to know that they might be here for awhile.

I will keep you informed.

garry

[nikki27]

I just wanted to tell you I think it is great that you are putting so much effort and love into these two boys! It sounds like you really know what you are doing. Best of luck with your three boys! You are making a difference in this world.

NIkki

[barbhuff]

Congrats! Those first ones will always have a special place in your heart.

I'm on number 15 now, and she's probably being reunified with relatives this week. Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions!

~B.

[Dmommab]

You're right. You will NEVER forget your first foster kids. The children we have now are #'s 11, 12 & 13. We still keep in touch with our first foster kids (a sibling group of 3) via their grandma & aunt who adopted them. Keep up the good work - sounds like you're doing a great job!

[rsgorman]

Gary,
Congratulations! I am happy to hear that there are other foster parents out there willing to accept older children. You are in the honeymoon phase, enjoy it! Read up on RAD, it may help you understand some of the reactions and behaviors you will encounter.