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Originally Posted By NINJAL

I'm interested in Foster Parenting and hope to adopt.
I heard about State "Foster & Adoption". This has my
interest because I dont have the finance for private
agency.My question is- What are my chances in getting
a health child(0-5 Yrs). I hear so much about special
need children being available. My husband and I would be incapable in taking care of one. Please help?

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Originally Posted By Adoptive Mom

ALL children that have been removed from there home/family due to abuse, neglect, etc... are considered special needs children. Most people confuse this term to mean severely handicapped/bedridden/wheelchair bound etc. That is just not so. What you need to do is inquire into fostering/adoption and answer the questionaires they give you. This will help you decide what level of disabilities you will be able to parent. This is an area that irritates me to no end. Why can't people parent a needy child that has a disability? Who is going to care for these children? "Educated" adults make the comments that they are unable to take care of a child with disabilities etc... How do they know something won't happen to their precious "perfect" "natural" children that might render them much more disabled. God forbid!! And before you ask, I have adopted two disabled children. No I have not fostered. I new I wanted these type children as my own and approached this endevor head own by adopting. We could not have asked for more perfect children. All aparents should be so lucky!! Oh yeah, and for those that say we are good people, have big hearts, have more courage than they do, it takes a strong person to do that. We consider ourselves fortunate to have these wonderful children. After all if we do what God expects us to do we should not have to think twice about taking care of the children. No matter what their conditions!!!!

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Originally Posted By PrestonLewis@yahoo.com

All 3 of my adopted children are "special needs" due to their experiences of neglect and abandonment by their parents. They are fine in school, they're fine at my family members homes, they're fine in church, they're fine out in public. They do bicker a lot, fuss and quibble over small matters, have jealousy amongst themselves, have poor self-esteem, 2 are in special education resource, and they demand lots of hugs, kisses, and affection.

So special needs isn't always a bad thing.