[shadowhawk4]

My husband and I are current foster parents to four sibling relatives. The youngest child has a different father from the three older children.

The father of the three older children is constantly making every kind of allegation you can think of against us or he has someone he knows make the complaints for him. All allegations have been found to be not true.

Our caseworker says she has enough to file an anti-harassment order but has not done so yet. What can we do, as foster parents, to stop these false allegations and harassment?

[Gryph]

Our state has a law titled "False Report to Law Enforcement" that is expanded to include any governemnt body with authority. Any accusation of child abuse must be reported to the police, which causes his false accusation to anyone. It's a misdemeanor with up to $4,000 fine and a year in jail.

There's also the civil route of slander or libel. You would need your own lawyer.

It wouldn't cost anything to talk to the police.

[LynMaria]

....As difficult as that will be with four, you must protect yourselves. Document every allegation and action taken..all reports to your worker and your worker's responses and actions taken. Document and alert your worker anytime one of your foster kids sustains an injury...large or small. Document and report to your worker anytime one of the kids makes an allegation against you. Demand any and all visits are 100% supervised so the father cannot influence his kids . Finally, as tough as it may be, you might need to consider having the children removed. Allegations in a foster situation can be very dangerous to a well-intending foster family....protect your own FIRST.

[NoCaMomof3]

I am new here, my name is Dina I live in Northern California in a town called Yreka, nice to meet you.

I am very sad to hear that you are having to go threw all this when you are just tring to be good people and give these children a temporary stable enviroment. Yes document everything, I am a daycare owner and I document everything it has never failed me so far and I have done it for the past 16 yrs.

I am looking forward to beginning my process into fostering tomorrow but I can see I will have my work cut out for me.

Many Blessings to you and yours.

xo Dina xo

[Mommyto?]

I see its been some time since anyone has hit this thread, but the false allegations continue. My husband was falsely accused, found untrue, both out of county SW who did the investigation said they knew it was "bogus", but was doing their job and that there needs to be a law as the state Gryph state does. One SW spoke to her supervisor about the pile of "unsubstantiated" reports she does and they agree something should be done. Our hearts ache for our FD whom we were in the process of adopting. But what do you do when the DSS SW makes the allegations? You CANT fight "city hall", as they say. Our attorney said not to go up against them. What are we to do? What other public agency can we foster/adopt through? Any suggestions?

[LadyBugz]

I'm not clear. Have the children been removed? You said the finding was in your favor, but then also said that you *were* (past tense) adopting. What's going on?

[rindava]

for any length of time (I'd say more then 6 months) and more then six months has not past since the child was moved....then I'd say get a new lawyer and fight for that child!!!!! (If the child is legally free for adoption)
A lawyer willing to work for you is your biggest thing....get everyone you know to write letters of support....

You have a good chance of getting that child back if the abuse was unfounded.

[hotspice58]

Mommyto, was your child removed? That sucks big time!!