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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

next week my mom goes to court to see if j wiil stay here or go back home I'm gonna miss him so much if he leaves after 3 months he really feels like my little brother and all my colledge friends come over to play with him my mom keeps telling me if he leaves we'll be able to help someone else but I don't think either of us knows what's gonna happen or how we are gonna feel. The hearing is july 3rd I'll keep anyone whoose intrested updated.

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This message was originally posted by hope4kids.

Keep us updated. I will think of you on the third.

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This message was originally posted by jolean12.

I will be thinking of you on the 3rd. If he does go home, just know what a difference you have made in his life. Let us know what happens.

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

ok i'll let you know i don't like what i know about his parents but they have been trying they brought their dog to the visit today it's kinda hard cause he's our first we don't know what to expect

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

by the way he's old enough to sort of understand his mom and dad are going to see the judge this week and starts crying and asking questions that me and my mom weren't given answears for at bedtime. I'll be glad when this week is over and we know what's going on. we just telling him we need to wait til the judge makes up his mind and that he needs to worry more about sleep at night. any other advice?????????????????????????????????

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This message was originally posted by jolean12.

Telling him that waiting for the judge is all he can do is about the only thing you know. Just be there to comfort him. It's just tears me up to think that children have to go through all that.

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

I know poor little guy he overheard me and my mom saying "thursday" at lunch and jumped out of his chair saying i get to go home thursday! from what our cw told my mom he might get more visits before he's allowed to move back in so i tried to explain that to him today he's just an easily excited child i'll make sure to post on thursday when we find out what's going to happen but i still wonder why he can't see how much better we treat him then his parents

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This message was originally posted by jolean12.

It doesn't matter what the childs parent has done, most of them still want to be at home. They are still their mother and all they knew before you was that, so they believe that is the way it should be....it seems as though they don't expect things to even improve when they get back. Just know that you have made a huge diiference in J's life and he will always remember that.

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

Starting next week J's parents will begin to have individual visits with him and his siblings to be able to take them back his date to return is sept 19th we are going to try to work with him and enjoy him the next two months and hope that when 9-19 comes. we can let go and he'll be ok. he's been bouncing all day telling everyone we see that he gets to go home, but I'll never forget how when my mom got teary while explaining the visit schedule to him he climbed on her lap and said "mom I'll always be in your heart" he also told me "he'll never forget his big sister". he is a very sweet child who has made alot of progress and was an excellant 1st placement. If I do go ahead and get my liscense for foster care when i turn 21 I hope I get one child as wonderful and special as him to make it worth it.

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This message was originally posted by jolean12.

What an amazing child! From his comments I am sure that as he grows up he will always remember what your family has done for him and the things you have shown him. Please keep us posted, I know you are sad about him leaving but now you know how much of a difference you have made in his life and always will.

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

yeah he's great! we plan to fill an album of friends and relatives he's gotten to know while living here so he'll be able to take something home. also we've been working pon his reading skills he is 2 grade levels behind what he should be but if we figured that if he improves at all while he's here. we'll have given him a something he can use forever

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This message was originally posted by jolean12.

You have already given him something that he can use and will benefit him for the rest of his life, a good family and good values. Nothing can take that away from him.

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This message was originally posted by megwing.

Not to be the voice of doom, but....

You guys also need to prepare him for the fact that something might still go awry... that he is one step closer to going home, but that his parents still need to do all of their "homework" essentially, and that they may not be ready to do that yet.... Help to lay the burden on his parents so that if it doesn't go well, he doesn't blame himself, and, as much as possible, help him to have realistic expectations..

M.

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This message was originally posted by fostersister.

ok right after the hearing when me and my mom where talking to him about going home we also "the judge said they have to be nice to you and your brothers and sisters or you might have to come back here or stay longer" we didn't mention the possibility of termination yet because of his age and the fact that he is very emotional should've we ?

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This message was originally posted by lambeausam.

How are J's visits going? Hope all goes well!