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Originally Posted By keri

My co-worker is adopting a five-year-old (first child). We are split down the middle on wether or not to throw a shower. What do you guys think?

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Originally Posted By Debbie

GO FOR IT!!! Your co worker is a new parent, with all the joys and excitement (and expense) that goes along. Why should they be cheated out of the fun of a shower just because their "new baby" is not a newborn? Good friends of our adopted a 2 1/2 yr. old from China and we were involved in their shower - if anything it was more special because of the infertility they had gone thru and the trip they were fixing to take to get Hannah.

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Originally Posted By Karen

Have a kid shower! The parents would appreciate it so much.

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Originally Posted By Melody

We are in the adoption process. At this point we're not sure if our child will be an infant or an older child; however, a dear friend is throwing one for us (when child comes!) and I can tell you from an expense standpoint it will be a blessing. As for support - it doesnt' get much better!

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Originally Posted By Cheryl

Okay. What is the problem with giving a "shower" for a new child. I understand how people talk about others that have one baby shower after another... And why does adoption have to be emphasized. This is a child coming to live with a new family. This child is a person that deserves just as much as any "natural" child would get. So if the child is older, say two to 17 years old throw a "welcome" party. Invite everybody! Don't just invite the girls. Invite whole families. I have adopted three times. The first was a baby shower just before going to get our infant son. Entire families were invited. The next, for a four year old boy, was a bar-b-que at church that included entire families especially those with children. The last one was a welcome party for our daughter that was 17 when she came to us. The people I work with gave this shower. Most everyone was invited. We requested no gifts but most everyone brought presents.

I just don't understand why "adopted" children have to be treated differently than "natural" children.

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Originally Posted By Cindy

I think you should definitely give her one. This is a really special time for both of them!

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Originally Posted By Rie

I would definitely ask the family if they would like to have a shower. We adopted a 11 and 9 year old, sister and brother. I know that all those new people and attention would have been too much for them. But, I also know that we have adopted two younger children and I feel like I have missed out on something special because we haven't had any kid showers. Just some more oppinions to think about.

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yes give her a shower!it will b fun and she may need things.and i would think it would make the child feel special

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Originally Posted By tan

SHOW YOUR LOVE,THOUGHT,AND PRAYERS TO YOUR FRIEND..AS WE KNOW THE CHILD WILL NEED CLOTHING OR EVEN THROW IN A TOY FOR THE CHILD.BLESS THE CHILD AS GOD WILL BLESS YOU...MY MANY PRAYERS GOES OUT TO ALL THAT ADOPT

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Originally Posted By Janelle

My friend and her husband are adopting a 4 yr. old and a 5 yr. old and absolutely yes! We are giving her a shower!! This will be her first too! I can't think of a better way to congratulate someone than to shower them with love and best wishes! (presents are nice too!)

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Absolutely! Whether the child is 5 years or newborn, it is still a first, and their are still needs. I am adopting a 21 month old in a few weeks. I currently have 3 children ages, 22, 20 & 16. Between friends, family & co-workers we are having a total of 4 showers! This is SUCH a blessing to us! Hope this helps!

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My DH & I are doing our HomeStudy and Training in Sept. and We could be parents by December or Jan. My sister who is Due with her first baby Dec 2 says she will throw me a shower, but she thinks it is too early to register for what we might need.
Am I crazy to want to get the registry over with? It's a little something for me to enjoy - dreaming about what may come, what I may need. But she wants me to wait until we have placement details. From what I have heard about older child adoption in my area - It's very quickly after homestudy if they find a good match. so i won't neccessarily have time later to Meander through the store.
Did anyone else go through this?