[NaeNae26]

Originally Posted by HappyMomAnna

I actually do not have any negative feeling about this name.... but, I can see where your concern might come from..... It is a powerful name....

I don't think it is a NEW name---I guess that it might feel normal for me having been born in the 60's and going to school with girls named--Rainbow and Sunshine--Chasitity and Ember.... which were all pretty much normal names when I was a kid....I even knew a girl named Flower.... Not sure what they all did when they grew up as I don't seem to run into these woman anymore????? But, I do have a friend named Wilma and she hates it....

I always wanted to be "Alona" but my daughters father refused to let me name Tori that.....

When Sean and Tori were named I had read a book that said the "most popular" girls had two syllable names that ended with a vowel sound.... Anna--Tina--Lisa--Carry--Mary--DeeDee--so I came up with TORI.

Now it seems like complicated names are all the rage! And names like Mildred--Ida--and Ester are not seen as Grandma names......

I personally Like Destiny.......very very much.

Well, he he, I am unsure what to say about thoughs names. I have a older lady that I am friends with and her mom named her Sparkles. I also run into Barbies. What were their parents thinking is all that comes to mind.

Destiny is not so bad, but I would not want to be named that. Just an honest opinion.

[mom2GRLC]

Well, we finally finalized our adoption and even at the last minute changed our mind several times.

Her new name is Riley Destiny-Suzanne Garner. I was about ready to just go with Destiny Suzanne Garner, when all the girls in the office as we were signing the papers all together said....OHHH????? IT was kind of funny, the way it was an automatice responce from everyone. They all said...I really liked Riley...it's much better than Destiny. Then my husband who at this point in the whole naming game....had told ME to choose. Starting saying how he wanted us to call her Riley also and so I said "why didn't you tell me this when I asked your opinion", So last minute we changed it from Rilley Suzanne Destiny Garner to...Riley-Suzanne Destiny Garner...then to Riley Destiny-Suzanne Garner. Mainly because I liked Destiny as her first middle name...rather than just adding it in their for no one to see. Besides, Riley S. Garner doesn't sound as good to me as Riley D Garner. Also it still preserves the name Destiny Suzanne Garner-Which I have always liked(if we kept Destiny in her name).

So even though it is a long name(which I'm not to happy with) I think our little girl will like it because we haven't left her birthname out of it...and we also have given her ....her two favorite names..that also had special meaing for us.

Just thought I'd let you know how everything turned out and what we eventually picked for her. Thank you all for your help and comments. I don't kow why naming a child is so difficult for me....but it is...finally the choice has been made and we can't change our minds anymore....well, I guess we can...but we're not...we're DONE. Again, thanks to everyone!!!

[tlc4kidz]

Congrats again on the finalization....it is wonderful that Riley Destiny-Suzanne has a forever home. I think you made the best choice for your family. BTW, she has a great name for calling when she's in a bit of mischief !

[mom2GRLC]

Just wanted to give you an update!!!

Riley loves her name and couldn't be happier!!! It's been about 2 months since her adoption was finalized. We are very happy with our decision and have completely fallen in love with her whole name.....and really feel that we did make the best choice for our daughter. It hasn't been easy for everyone though.

I wrote a long long letter to her bmom mainly focusing on her new name and how we choose it and why, and that we really wanted her to be called by her new name...about a month before her adoption. In it i told her that we were calling her Riley....but weren't sure what her whole name would be at the time. I spoke to her on the phone shortly after she received it and she said that although she wasn't happy about it she would respect our decision.

I noticed for that next month when ever she would speak to her on the phone she wouldn't call her either name. Instead she called her babygirl or that sort of thing....which I was ok with....but I was still listening for the time when she would actually call her Riley for the first time. Which in my mind would have reassured me that she is ok with her decision to relinquish her daughter and that she did respect us as her mother and father.

Well, My hopes turned to dissapointment and anger. The day that we called and our daughter told her the exciting news that her adoption was now final and what her new name full name was....we had a very negative responce. Instead of respecting our decision like she said she would she continued to call her Destiny...against our wishes and didn't show any excitment for her adopion or new name...instead it was clear she was upset and dissappointed. It really affected our daughter and we had a very difficult couple days that followed. I tried to give it another try and let our daughter call her back a couple weeks later....that time she was more respectul and went back to calling her babygirl, but the conversation was just so emotional for our little girl and it affected her for a week afterward. There were many other reasons....from problems we were having along the way(from the time we first started having contact) that we have now decided to take a break from visits/phone calls. We are only having contact through letters for a while.

While we had our concerns about things along the way and new we would be needing a period of time for just letters.....while everyone adjusted to the adoption.....the name issue really was the straw that broke the camels back(so to speak). We had given and given and given in the relationship.....but we could never give enough....and our wishes had not been respected along the way.

While I am still very happy we choose the name we did....and wouldn't go back and change it...or do anything differently....I am trying so hard to understand her point of view and not.....take her anger and sadness personally it is all so very difficult for me.

I understand this must be so difficult on her....more than i could ever imagine...that's why we are taking a break....so we can have time to work through our own emotions as well as let her have time to take everything all in so we can all move foreward to building a healthy relationship for our daughter and our family as a whole. Rather than letting all the emotions.....on both sides cause us to end things badly and loose everything we have worked to build.

So that is where we all are....just thought I'd keep you updated.

[chanibelle]

I just asked my husband what he thought of the name. I think its a nice name,but I don't think I would name my child that. He said it reminded him of a stripper's name. But hey, its all up to how you feel about the name. I have a good friend whose daughter's name is Justice. I really like that name,but others might not. Its all about preference.

[wonderingchef1973]

I am not sure if this is pertinant after all this time but...With all due respect...that is her name, you should leave it alone. You are totally going to confuse a 3 year old. She may just hate the fact that you changed it later in life...you know like when she is a teenager, and knows EVERYTHING...lol.

And honestly, a friend of mine, named her girl Destiny...and the first thing I thought of was a exotic dancer..BUT, the girl is now almost 12 and it suits her. And most times she is called "Dessie", which I think is absolutely beautiful, special and downright warm.

And, now, it really is a popular name. Even my Pastor has a daughter named Destiny. People will misconstrue any name for any reason....think of her first, leave her name the way it is. Try Dessie, it might grow on you. Wendy

[mom2GRLC]

It's almost been a year since we have adopted her and legally changed her name.

She loves her name and so do we. Her bfamily does call her by her new name as well.

We feel completely confident in our decision. If someday my daughter chooses to change her name that would be up to her and we would respect her decision. But the beauty of her new name is it incorporates all aspects of her life...and she really enjoyed picking it out herself.

I do respect your opinion, but we will just have to agree to disagree!!!