[trynitey]

OMG... my older sister is driving me crazy... she is having a baby boy sooner than me and she stole my name! This is driving me crazy. I have never gotten along with her and all she does is disrespect me. UGH! I wouldnt care if it wasnt for the fact that me and my hubby just dont agree on boy names... and this one name that she is stealing is the ONLY one me and him both love.Has anyone ever had this happen to them??? How did you handle it?

[Byrnes]

Trynitey-
Yeah that happened to us as well, although we hadn't started the adoption process yet. And it was my sister in law who did it. I had even said that if we had a little girl I wanted to name her Hannah Jane......It was like she had never heard me say anything about it. I was devestated at the time. I felt like that ment we were never going to have a baby.....(I now have two beautiful girls from China) but basically I just vented with people I trusted I never said anything to her. I actually like her and didn't want to start WWIII between the inlaws and myself. That being said if it had been my sister I think I would have said something to her, not angry just let her know ... Have you talked to her and told her how you feel yet? You could go ahead and name him whatever you like, it could be a little confusing at family gatherings but it might not be that bad either. When we decided to adopt we let everyone in the family know and told everyong what her name would be and even started saying this like "When Emma gets here bla bla bla " there are no other emmas in our family.....I know how you feel though, sorry that
you have to go through it.
Byrnes

[dkb60]

So use the same first name and a different middle name. To be honest, unless you are living in a small town, the kids won't spend a lot of adult time together. I have friends that named their twins Mary Kay and Mary Pat. I share a first name with a cousin and at family things as kids everyone just used first and middle names. We have not seen eachother in 20 years now. I also know another family were the uncle is Hans Eric, nephews are Hans, Eric, and Hans Christian. Name your child what ever you want...

truth is no matter what you name them, they will probably hate the name anyway.
D.

[HappyMomAnna]

My sister-in-law and I were pregnant together and I told her that we planned to give our son three names and then his last name.... She already had a son and he had the tradiditonal first--middle and last name......well my niece was born 3-weeks before my son and what do you know my sister-in-law had the nerve to give my niece three names!!! In the end I got back at her because I had a daughter and gave he a first and middle name and my sister-in-law asked me why I only gave her two names---Dugh--she have another when she gets married!

My rule is NEVER tell the family what you plan to name the baby because someone will ALWAYS steal the name you want!

[djb_97]

I have a different twist...

My half sister was pregnant with twins at the time - a boy & a girl, I was depressed at the time fearing I'd never have a child. Anyway, she was having trouble coming up with a boys name and all her kids first names start with D and the middle names either are L's or R's - I had the perfect name picked out for our son that both DH & I loved ( Dylan Lane )! It fit perfect for her family, so I gave it up, I guess you could say I named my nephew.

Well now DH & I are in the profile books and waiting for a match, luckily we have agreed on other boys names too, but it would have been nice to use that name. Now we're having trouble agreeing on a girls name - UGH!!!!

I agree with the others... name the child whatever YOU want.

Good luck!