[gclvaruba]

Originally Posted by FostermomCathie

I have an 8yr old girl foster child with aspergers. I am finally after 6 months getting to where I can sense when something unappropriate is going to come out of her mouth in public but yikes!!! She is such a joy but she can be so frustrating also. ...snipped for brevity.. Is this social bluntness problem correctable? I cant hardly stand to watch the reaction of another old lady being asked when she is going to die......or fear for our lives when she asks a black person "when are they going back to Africa"? foster mom Cathie

Had a hardy laugh...Our foster to adopt DD is also 8 yo. We have had a great deal of difficulty teaching her to wear her pants properly (partial upbringing, partially tactile) and NOT hanging below her belly "like a plumber".

In line at the grocery store this weekend she turned to my DH and said, "That man in front of us must be a plumber!" and no it was not because he was carrying a plunger....

[gclvaruba]

Okay, where did everybody go?

Suggestions on summer activities???

Our dd is going to science camp for three weeks (NOT consecutive) this summer...

Are your Aspie kids water rats too?

[momraine]

Wow reading all these posts I have found my bio son's twins! LOL. He too was talking early, read at age 2, and seemed brilliant for a while till we started having trouble in school in second grade. He can see a movie once and recite all the dialog, never shows emotion, he is now at 13 learing body language, and has now memorized most figures of speach so he can translate them, since they are like a foreign language to him. He is even getting sarcasm now, a huge thing for him. However we have had a school tell us he couldn't have aspergers (even though he has the diagnosis from a specialist and from his doctor!!!) because he didn't have a violent temper. If only they knew how hard we had worked on that temper! Anyway nice to "meet" all of you.

[gclvaruba]

Wow Lorraine-- I have some opposite problems...school is okay because dh is a special ed teacher BUT still a daily struggle with separating sarcasim from reality. Also struggling with her using food for comfort. Dh is continually "giving in" <<sigh>>.

[momraine]

My son also had some sensory issues, which means food is not a comfort for him. Getting him to eat more than two kids is a struggle, but at 13, he is doing very well. He had to figure out sarcasm as a survival tool, my dh's family, whom we are very close to and spend a lot of time with are very, very sarcastic. So he has had to learn it, but it's been a long road. He is very smart, so he knew that the things people were saying were not making sense or were things I had told him were not nice to say, but he could not figure out for years, why they were saying such things. Now he finally has it, he will occasionally ask us if we are being sarcastic, but has found it not good to ask his friends, he and his brother have little signals and his brother (19 months younger) helps him a lot, but he has gotten good at analyzing it to figure it out. Sometimes listening to him it's almost like listening to an alien who is studying human behavior. He finds it fascinating and confusing.

[goodvibes]

Originally Posted by momraine

My son [ . . . ] studying human behavior. He finds it fascinating and confusing.

I have to agree with your son.