[loubielou]

Hi all
Kirsty - roll on the 10th Aug... not long to go now.
Yes, I did get your pm, sorry been busy and will have to put off the meet-up for a bit longer. Things are a bit complicated. will pm you again.

HEY to everyone else

Chelsea - waiting waiting waiting - get used to it after a while dont you? certainly hard to comprehend sometimes we have been on this baby-quest journey (in its various forms) for over 6 years now. Keep your chin up though, it'll happen. That is cool that you are able to get to know your brother too - especially, as you said, being on the other side of the world! Cool

Richie - your boys are so smiley and happy. that is a great photo. I like the idea of a coming home day celebration or a legal day celebration. hmmm, something to think about. I'm sure you could join OPAN if you wanted to. They let me join, and we havent adopted - it's really about forming a support network I think. They may give you help if you want info on reconnecting with Jack's birthmum in the future... They seem like really nice people.

Well, we are investigating some other areas, will keep you posted.

Lou

[loubielou]

Hey,
Where is everyone?
It's been a while.
Kirsty, I see this week is countdown week.... how are you feeling? Any further visits with bmum?

I didnt manage to do the secret squirrel travelling thing I was pm-ing some of you about, so I guess you will be stuck with me for a bit longer.

We have been busy as usual. Life goes on. Will be happier once the weather improves. I really need to get out and do some exercise, feeling like a blob !

[kune]

Good to see someone posting on this thread.
You will need to PM me about the secret-squirrel thingy so I can understand what you are up to.

I really need to get out and do some exercise, feeling like a blob !

Me too!!! I went into Caroline E sale today and tried on some Spring clothes - whew....there's a lot of winter weight that has taken up residence on the old body. Weight watchers is a must instead of a passing thought!!

I'm counting down to the 17th of this month. Daughter and I are going to Sydney to catch up with bson who I haven't seen for 9 months, and catch a show - Prescilla Queen of the Desert. Only 3 days but really looking forward to it. Daughter (32 yo) does a mean impression of Dancing Queen as a party trick and we both love ABBA so....should be a hoot.

Days are getting longer and eventually this rain has to stop. I feel for you young ones with toddlers and trying to keep them happy between fine patches.

Ann

[kune]

Hey there's another NZ'r on the threads - about my age and birthmum to a 25 year old. Watch for susieloo.

Ann

[Richie68]

Party on Kune. I loooove Abba. I was a kid in the 70's and thought myself to be a bit of a dancing queen - tragic really - have a fabulous time and a wonderful catchup with bson. I'm glad you have a relationship - I wish my son did with his bmum. I feel a bit like a bit of a stalker, because any info I get on her family I store away from him for the future. My friends all laugh and say I'd make a great PI. But anyway less about me and more about the dancing - have fun enjoy the show.

Kirsty - Loubie Lou is right 10 Aug is approaching fast - do you know when you may hear after that? How old is Cam the Man - I see a party hat in his picture - did we miss a birthday - he's not one yet????? I'm confused!

Loubie-Lou I know the feeling. All I seem to do these days is eat. I'm suppose to be going shopping for clothes in the next few weeks but I appear to be doing some major damage to the waistline at present.

Rich

[ChelseaCFC]

Hey Guys

I was also thinking, it's the 10th tomorrow - so the big day for you Kirsty. Hope it all goes fine - I'm sure it will. How's that georgeous boy of yours?

Kune - good to hear from you, sound's like you'll be having a blast in Sydney. Can you hear the drums Fernando?

Susielou - you'd be most welcome to join us.

Richie - love the photo of your boys. I think you're absolutely right to squirrel away every little bit of information you can about Jack's birth family. One day he will want to know, and even if he doesn't - maybe his children will. We figured that when we were looking to make contact with my big brothers - even if they don't want to know, they're kids might one day want to know.

Hey Lou - sorry your secret squirrel thing didn't come off. I hope we'll still have your company regardless.

Well, now to me. It seems we have another link - this time to a little boy - and by crikey this time we might actually get through! I am scared witless! I dare not get my hopes up, but if we get through then I need to get my self into a totally different headspace and quickly. From not a mum, it's never going to happen - to wow, I'm really going to be a mum and responsible for this little person! I don't know if I can explain the mix of hopeful joy at the idea of it really might be happening to the sheer terror of all the hurdles we have to face before then and the idea that we might fall at any one of them. It's been such a long journey so far - like a snakes and ladders game, we've had plenty of snakes but this one looks like a ladder going straight up. Sorry - I am rambling and not making sense at all. Hopefully you get the gist though.

Lots of love to you all from way over here and best wishes to you Kirsty for tomorrow.
Chelseaxxx

[kune]

Chelsea
Sending positive thoughts and spiritual blessings your way - Take deep breathes to get past the scary bits, and with a spring in your step you can leap the hurdles and dodge the snakes.

Remember how hard it was when there was no possibilities in the offering. This is so much easier....right??

I'll think of you when they sing "Fernando" - only 7 more sleeps!!!!

Ann

[loubielou]

CLASSIC! I too was a 70's child, and a big ABBA fan. I was the blonde one in our "pretend" moments.

Chelsea - I soooooooooo know where you are coming from and also understand the rollercoaster and the absolute terror of thinking "what if this actually happens?"
on one hand I want it so badly
and on the other I think, hmmmmm I have a pretty easy life and what will become of me

wishing you luck tho, i know whatever happens you it will be for the best.

hugs to everyone

have to get off as dh wants the computer - now

[coffee_please]

OMG time is getting away from me. I am very sorry it has taken me so long to get on here and give you an update. I have been back at work for a month and it is going well. Campbell LOVES daycare and I have to admit they are great. He does things that he wouldn't get to do at home, like paint. And they have a full time chef, who makes the kids things like Nachos and cottage pie. Considering I cannot cook, Campbell is VERY happy to be there, and has put on soooo much weight. I am finding working full time, far less tiring than being home with a wriggly worm 24/7. btw... he started crawling properly today!! Proud Mummy

The 10th came and went with no word . We haven't heard a thing. I know everything went to court and that Cam's case was due to go before a registrar on the 10th, but neither we (nor our lawyer) were required to be there, and therefore have no clue what happened. We haven't received ANY communication from the court what-so-ever. Our lawyer has contacted us and has said that she will 'apply pressure' to find out what is happening. So sorry, no news. But I will keep you posted.

We have had no further visits with the birth mum but we have been in touch regularly. She wants to set something up with us soon, which I will be very happy to do.

Campbell is 1 next month (17th). We are having a very low-key party on the 15th - light lunch and just family - to celebrate. The photo (with the birthday hat) was taken at our coffee groups combined first birthday party. They took the youngest and the oldest baby and picked a weekend right in the middle to hold the party. It was really neat.

That is about everything, please let me know if I have forgotten to answer something... and Chelsea, please provide an update on the wee boy you might be welcoming soon.

xx Kirsty

[Richie68]

Groovy thanks for that Kirsty.

Btw - Gray rolled over for the first time yesterday - twice - and we missed the whole thing. Then he rolled over twice today and we missed it again as well. It's a consipirarcy. Congrats and big smiles on Cam crawling - he is growing up so fast. Trust me you'll prefer that he never crawled especially when he's into everything - lol. Rich
PS: Cam looks very cute in that Party Hat. Adorable.

[coffee_please]

I rang the court today to see if I could find out anything. And I got the right person at the right time, and he told me that Campbell is all ours. Yay. It's a done duck.

[ChelseaCFC]

Fantastic news Kirsty! Shame you had to chase up to get the answer - but it's great news - woooooopppppeeeeyy!

Also sound's like going back to work has worked really well too. Lucky Cam having a ball at daycare too.

Richie - have you considered setting up a webcam on Gray?

I guess Kune has got her dancing queen shoes on by now. Hey Lou - I was always the blonde one too!

All fine here - just holding breath, and waiting, waiting, waiting. Going away for a week's holiday next week though - so that will help pass the time.

Catch you all in a couple of weeks when I'm back.
Chelsea xx

[Richie68]

Yay to the adoption order being all through. It's all over for you as far as Social Welfare goes. Kirsty will you can now get a new birth certificate for him? It was so nice applying for the certificate and seeing your names and mother and father.

Chelsea have a great break - are you going anywhere interesting???

Richie

[kune]

Hey - Where is everyone? What are you all up to? Must be important 'cause it's almost a month since anyone was here.

Update from my Sydney trip ........Prescilla was great. No...we didn't dress up. It was a wet soggy night and I needed my tights and merino to keep warm, but the musical was good - not great - but worth going to. Unlike the Movie, there was no vastness - just a bus on stage and fabulous costumes. AND...did they sing Fernando????? No!!! So we sang it on the way home instead.

It was great catching up with my bson. It's the first time I have stayed with him in his apartment and it seemed a little too "familyish" at first. We went out for dinner the first night, and on to a bar. At 11.45 aussie time (1.45 NZ time) I was fading fast so he hailed a taxi and sent me home. At 8.30pm I woke up and crept through the apartment only to find he had stayed out all night. By the time I had had my shower and had breakfast & a couple of coffees, I felt quite at home. He arrived about an hour later and was most apologetic, but I got in first and did the hands on the hips and stern Mother voice "Where did you sleep last night and was she happy to see you this morning?" It took a little while to work out that I was not really wanting an answer. Sometimes it's better not to know!!! But the look on his face was priceless.

He is flying over here next month to meet his birthdad so I will see him for a couple of days. Gisborne is a bit off the beaten track but I have booked a couple of Grabaseat tickets Auckl/Gisb return and that makes it very easy.

Congratulations Kirsty and family. That piece of paper is a bit like a Marriage Certificate. Important ....but not what's necessary to make a good marriage. That comes from the heart. Same with adoption. I know the finalisation is security, but he has been yours from the day you brought him home. Can I add a birthmother hope.........don't ever try to make him fit the mould....Allow your kids to be true to themselves and find their own reality.

Bson and I had a long talk about how adoption affected him as an adolescent and into early adulthood. How he nearly followed his parents dream; to become an accountant. He graduated with the degree and did some summer work and just before accepting a post, he flew off to London, tended bar, did some modelling, worked in the film industry, lived in digs and travelled to almost every corner of the globe. His Mum still says he could be rich now if he had taken the position with a Merchant Bank. He knows he is rich...in experiences and memories..and I totally agree. His 1/2 brother and sister did exactly the same ..it's what he was meant to do. OK little lecture over....I get a bit precious sometimes about this lost/found son. I appreciate I'm on an Adoptive Parent thread....but need sometimes to do the mother rant.

Ka kite ano
Ann

[Richie68]

Hi Kune

Fabulous that you had a great time at Pricilla. My girlfriends and I are planning to go over next year for all our 40th (yes I am that old). Maybe we should catch a show.

I've taken on board your advise Kune. Jack is at that age where all his natural qualities are running coming out of him. He is naturally musical and naturally sporty. DH and I have not got a musical bone in our body. So far he has requested a trumpet and violin - so we got him a toy trumpet and a 2nd hand guitar. He's now asking for a trombone at 4 yrs old (I'm not even sure how your spell it! LOL). He is also coming out with these usual statements. The other day he asked me where the "blue" had gone. It took me a while to realise he meant the "blue sky". It was a day with high cloud that didn't look like cloud but just covered the sky in this thin white layer. We also keep on encouraging him to play with the round ball and he continues to play with the rugby ball - he's not even sure how to use it - but he just prefers it. Everyone tells me that he is the next Daniel Carter. The reason why I'm telling you all this is because I believe all of that is 'in' him - it is all part of his nature. He's just perfect.

I'm so glad that you had some time with your bs. It must have been wonderful and weird at the same time. When Jack is 5 next year we will once again try and contact his b-m. But as Kirsty said - she will be expecting the baby she left behind not the boy he has become. Not that I think she will want to make contact but here's hoping.

Good night - it's almost midnight - I better go turn into a pumpkin.

Go the "All Blacks"

Richie Rich