[thelowlanders]

So this keeps coming up. I thought maybe I should post it here. There's alot of background, but for starters.... Does it ever stop? How do you know if a "specialist" is qualified for this, as our last one was not and says we're doing great? What worked for you? I really need more info.... Please

[Lorraine123]

An attachment therapist can help you. Other therapists cannot.

[lucyjoy]

How old is the child with the peeing issue?

It's tuff to help without more information.

[thelowlanders]

She's 3 as of November. She was fully potty trained. But since day 1 she has "puddled". She did it on the stairs. Then sat by it making sure we knew about it. We have had "painting" episodes also. But generally puddling. We worked with her alot on communication, emotions, etc. We didn't have puddles for months. Then holidays came and there was hardly supervised visits. Her mother for 3 weeks+ completely shredded her security. Told her she was going "home" really soon w/ her and her new boyfriend and his son, etc. That we're not her family and did all the usuall f-family bashing also. Let's just say at Christmas, they had 2hrs. I came to pick up andthey hadn't opened presents yet or anything. Little did she know, that they had caught her saying all this. But in the meantime, we have a very distressed, confused, little girl who could hardly get out of there faster. She was "all done". Anyway, the puddling is now Crazy out of control. She peed on me the other day twice. It's just escalating. She wears pull ups,but has many methods to puddle. I now have to dry her in the tub, and dress her completely Before I take her out or there will be a mess of pee. We're talking seconds of turning to grab shirt, turn back and "puddle". ......ugh..... We double diaper. Pull up, then adult pull up, then plastic cover, then fitted pants. But this does not get to the heart of the problem. We want to help her through it.

[lucyjoy]

At this age, and with the increased level of stress and fear in her life, I'd try not to make a big deal out of this. Let her clean up as much as she can with your help and move on as if she isn't fully potty trained. I would be sure she had lots of extra cuddling and rocking time to help with her security level. Once she feels secure again that she isn't going back and will be with you, this behavior should solve itself.

I know it is frustrating and a pain to deal with but little people have a harder time telling us about all the stress they are going through. The behavior is a symptom of her fear/anger.

[momraine]

I don't think it will stop until she feels safe. Which wont happen until things settle down. I think ignoring it and dealing with it by putting her back in diapers is your best option.