[micmari]

Which is in a child's long term best interest - to stay with the foster-adopt family he's grown attached to and been with since birth (he'll be nine months old at placement decision meeting in Nov.) OR to be moved into foster-adopt family with bio-brother (2-1/2 years old, in foster care with us for a year.) ? Both foster-adopt families are good homes, boys healthy with no special needs identified at this time, have had visits but not lived together. Similar meeting was held late July & ended in keeping current separate placements to give bdad 90 days to be100% compliant with services (hadn't been at all for first 9 months) and then continue toward ru both boys to him, rather than tpr, but he's already down to about 80% compliant and not showing progress yet. So ... IF this is looking like it's closer to tpr and adoption, which is better? Keep where they are and adopt into separate families with contact maintained or move little brother in with us to grow up with older brother? I think for our FS having his little brother join us is better for him, but for the little brother it means losing his current family, the only one he's known since birth, except three weeks back with bmom in supervised setting - didn't work out. Is it worth it for the little brother?

[Lorraine123]

I think it would be very damaging to tear that little guy from the only family he knows.

[stevenstwin]

Without knowing more, I'd have to say that it sound like the idea situation would be to keep the boys in their present homes, but maintain some contact between them.