[miarra]

Has anyone surrendered rights to an adopted child? My daughter has been physically abusive to the other children in the home. She has molested my toddler son. And is constantly making false allegations of abuse against, first me now she's accusing her siblings. I am at a loss. We have worked with several Preventive agencies to keep her in the home and make it work. Four years of this plus counceling no change on her part.
I'd like to know if anyone has had similiar problems. Also, is there anything I can do legally to stop her from making the accusations to CPS. My career is being affected by this I can't get a job. I'm a single mom and sole provider. Thank Goodness the kids have their subsidies. I am being helped by relatives. I've talked to her about how wrong this is and what it does to my being able to work. She doesn't care and continues to slander me. I have other adopted children and everything is fine with them. This girl is just so vengeful and nasty. PLEASE HELP!!!

[lucyjoy]

Depending on the state you're working with, it may be possible to place her into a residential treatment center where she can get ongoing counseling and your family can get some peace. There are ways to disrupt adoptions but they are very difficult. Some people surrender their children back to foster care but they are often charged with child abandonment in order to do so.
Some people use agencies or private lawyers to locate families to rehome their children. You might try looking at Welcome to Attachment & Trauma Network* - ATN for more assistance.

[miarra]

Thank you so much for responding. I am waiting to hear back from the county worker about surrendering my rights or at the very least placing her in voluntary foster care. She is presently in a psychiatric center from there she is going into residential placement. I will not have her back in the home. I realized that I could be charged with failure to protect. Even though I kept the other kids away from her always after that you just never know. Anything can happen. Thanks again!!

[momraine]

I don't have any advice, but just wanted to wish you luck and tell you that you are doing the right thing by keeping her away from your other kids. One thing I have learned from other parents, is that if they let you place her voluntarily, you will probably have to pay child support.

[SAHmom]

With our a/son, we obained an attorney and placed our son in state's custody due to his much documented behaviors and safety threat to our other children. We were not ordered to pay any child support and in fact, have an order from that judge that we do NOT pay child support and the subsidies can not be touched.

Hugs and prayers sent your way!

[trying2hard]

I am in the same boat- lawyers charge $250 an hour... any other options for dissolution with out major finances?

[radblog]

Do you have a receiving family in mind? If so, you can accomplish this with reasonably minimal attorney time. It may still cost several hours of time for an attorney but this is a life changing decision for you AND the child and it isn't going to happen without consequence... physical, financial and emotional.