[hotspice58]

A little background information: I'm a single, foster/adoptive mother. December of 2004 I had a placement of a 14 yo boy. He had been in 3 other homes and a group home; basically, he'd been moved once a year since he came into foster care. I had no knowledge of attachment disorder. I thought my love could help him; of course I was wrong. At the end of the year, he's placed in a group home. I stay in touch with him and pick him up. I had him this past weekend for a day. Basically, he disappeared for 3 hours. He calls me around 8 and says "I'm pissed at you; I waited and you never showed up" which wasn't true. Yesterday, I went to take him back but he refused to go with me. He waited for his friend who, was out of town and couldn't take him. Another friend's mother took him back.

My question is: he was making progress behavior-wise. Is this normal? He knows he won't get another pass for a couple of months.

[radblog]

Millie, there is little liklihood that young man got that far in his life with that many losses and didn't pick up some attachment issues along the way. To answer your question, I suggest you might go to Home and ready Our Stories... mine is the only one listed, but read about my son. And then read the RadBlog on adoption.com (AdoptionBlogs.com: What's New) You should get many of your questions answered there. Good luck!

[hotspice58]

Thanks, Nancy!!