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Originally Posted By L. S.

I have a child just told she has this. What do I do and how do I deal with it?

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Originally Posted By Cat

I tried to send you email with some information (clinic, books, website) but it was returned. Email me at nielsen@masktech.nsc.com and I will forward it to you.

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Originally Posted By Ann

Have the child assessed by a child psychologist and see have services put in place. Good Luck! These children need to be kept busy with activities, play therapy, and the child I have need reassuance and I have to involve myself in activitie with her to build up her self confidence.

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Originally Posted By Rie

I have 3 kids with attachment disorder. They are not severe, but they are a handful. You can be successful. A good counselor is a necessity. One that is trained in counseling attachment disorder. There are not many counselors that are trained in this. Also, you need to get training on how to parent a attachment disorder kid. She is hard to find, but Nancy Thomas has some great stuff out there. Check Borders Books or Amazon.com.

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Originally Posted By LJ

Dear Johanna, I think your heart is in the right place, and in some cases you may be right. But, I know that for some kids going back to there parents would not help.

If I read the message right, I'm Rie's husband. All of our 4 children are adopted, 3 are RAD. Our oldest son would not be well served to return to his birth parents. He currently hates them bitterly and has a very vengeful spirit. Another one of our kids was essentially abandoned as an infant.

Each child in care has a story. Many of them are tragic. Many of them are true victims of physical and sexual abuse. Yes, some are in care wrongfully, but in our experience most are not.

Please don't be angry at those of us who have chosen to foster and adopt children. Sure there are some bad people who foster and adopt, but most of us are doing this because we love kids in general, and ours even more. We don't do it for money - no amount would be enough to put up with the stress. We don't even do it for the love the kids give us - it doesn't come very frequently or very honestly (all too often). My wife and I feel that we got into this because we wanted to help hurting children and believe that God wants us to it.

It sound's like you are a believer, too. Remember that God is all about redemption, about using people to heal hurting hearts. Please pray for our son and for our other kids.

Thanks,

LJ