[swd]

No, we're still waiting for the bureaucracy to end its fun. We were told that it would be final by Nov/Dec of last year (2008) at the latest, with it possibly being as soon as end of summer. Well, as I said above, TPR didn't even happen til November, we didn't get transferred to adoption court til May, and they've been sitting on it ever since. Now we just found out our adoption certification has expired and we have to redo our fingerprints, so that's another 6 weeks of delay all for nothing. We're hoping it will be end of October, but I'm not holding my breath.... It's ridiculous. I can't even imagine what others go through in cases where the parents even just ask about working a program, let alone trying!

I hope your situation goes more smoothly than ours has, and that we're just an anomaly and not the usual practice. I have a hard time believing that a "new girlfriend" of someone who's in jail would have any recourse since it's not even her kid and the guy is in jail for however long. Why would she get preference over the current placement? (Nevermind, I know the answer to that!)

Hang in there. I hope you have a quicker outcome than we're having!

[Kitty-Kat]

Oh my gosh! You have been jerked around something fierce.. I can't even imagine the emotional highs and lows of your journey.

Today CPS called me wanting to know if I could take his 3 siblings! It just about killed me to say no because I have 3 already and two of them are babies I am feeling so guilty tonight because of this decision I can't even sleep! To make matters worse, if they do find a home for the other three you know the chances of them taking my little one greatly increases!

Sometimes I'm not sure if I can handle the stress of how the system works, but when I see my little ones bright eyes and big smile it reminds me why. Well its in Gods hands now and whatevers meant to be will be. Thanks for listening to me, it does help.

[swd]

Awww... Don't feel bad about saying no. You have to do what's right for you and the kids, and if it would be too much to take all 3, it's not fair to any of them. Would they tell you where the sibs are going, so you can arrange with the other placements for visits? Or find another placement for your other two (all are foster, right?) so you can take all the sibs?

(Sorry, I haven't read the whole thread yet, so I don't know if this is even a possibility for you. I don't mean to sound cold, but I really have no idea how the system "works" (or not, as has been my limited experience) and it just seems like a good idea to have the sibs together or at least in touch if possible, no?)

[Kitty-Kat]

I think your statement is more acurate (how well the state doesn't work). For example.. they are now telling me that two of his siblings (which are 5 and 6 yrs old) have been in a foster home for the last 2 years and even call them mom and dad! The only problem is the home is JUST a foster home, they don't have a license to adopt nor do they wish to adopt these two boys!! So my question is why and the heck has the state not tried to find them an adoptive home before they bonded with this family :O

Crazy huh? I feel so awful for these kids, but I have a son who is 7 that we adopted in April and a beautiful little girl who is 1 years old that we have had since birth and God willing we hope to adopt her also. He is 4 months and that is tough enough having two little ones and wanting to take on more little ones ugh! I am sorry for rambling on and on. Its just hard turning them away

As for visits.. Hopefully I will be able to make arrangements soon for the siblings to get to see him.

[Kitty-Kat]

Ugh!! Last night I received a phone call from my CASA worker saying the SW has found an adoptive home for the 3 other siblings and they said they would also take my fs as well.

I knew by turning away his siblings that this was a hugh possibility, but having 6 kids all under the age of 7 would have been too difficult for us. Anyways, my CASA is fighting to keep him with us and they have a meeting with the Judge in his chambers this afternoon to make a final decision. I have a bad feeling we are going to loose! My CASA said the foster/adopt family is brand new and NEVER had any kids. She felt this would be to much at once for them and since there is no bond between the children that it doesnt make sense to move him! Well please keep me in your prayers today!!!

[cadywill]

I will keep my fingers crossed for you and your family! Hopefully the judge will side with you and you can just take your FS for visits with his siblings. Keep me posted!

[Kitty-Kat]

Well the Judge decided since our fs has no bond with his siblings or the foster family and he does with us, that it doesn't make sense to move him from the only family he knows!!

The Lord is truly watching over our family. Hopefully time will fly by and no other family members will come out of the wood works ugh!

[cadywill]

I'm happy to hear the wonderful news!

[Kitty-Kat]

Thank you cadywill... It feels good just knowing someone else out there understands what this is like and is thinking about you. I read these message boards daily and I pray for everyone on here.

It really does help because family and friends sometimes just don't get it. Thanks again and hopefully soon I will be posting about my adoption date hehe.

God Bless

[Kitty-Kat]

Well my CW is bound and determined to move my fs with his siblings and even though the judge said he is not to be moved from our home at this time, my CW is going to set up a adoption committe to reveiw potential adoptive parents who will take and adopt all 4 children!

Well I am so confused because the other 3 siblings are already severed and ready to adopt but my fs is not even close to that status yet so how can he be included? My CASA worker also told me that the 3 year old they have is having some attachments issues and is so scared of being moved again. Well if they are having problems why would they want to take another child who is a baby who needs full time care that would take away from the time the 3 year old obviously needs! Ugh sorry so long just feeling lost and confused and wondering maybe I shouldn't be keeping him from growing up with his siblings. But we love him so much, am I just being selfish?