[Higgy]

well, i got a lead on my b-mom, and found her ( at least i think its her) at the University she works at.
spoke to her the other day and asked her if she knew of the woman i was looking for ( not telling her i thoguht i already knew it was her) and she said no- that it wasnt her. I even told her that id seen her pic online and that she had STRIKINGLY similar facial features to me.
*sigh*
I was told through a reliable source what her married last name was- and this woman has the same name, same eyes, teeth, facial shape, and graduated at roughly the same time from the same school as my b-mom went to.
and she sat there and told me that- no, shes not the woman i was lookin gfor.
how heartbreaking.
I know my b-mom has 4 sisters, and i suppose technically, she could be an aunt, but.... she took my email address, and that was that.
you know what?
sometimes, this process sucks.

[ingodshands]

Uuum, sounds a bit fishy to me....if she was adamant she was not the person that you were looking for....why bother to take your email address??

If somebody contacted me, in search of a person, and they thought that I was that person and I wasnt...I would not take any contact details, unless I WAS or knew who the person was that they were looking for. Very strange....

Unless, you pressured her to take your email address, so she felt she had to, I would say hang in there.....she might be who you are looking for, but is in complete shock!!!

Hang in there, dont give up hope just yet.

Yeah I agree, sometimes this all really does suck....

Collette

[AC75]

I would bring the picture to that lady, put it infront of her, and say, "I know this isn't easy for you, but I do believe you are my birthmother."
I would just be loving but confronting and put all fears aside.

[l-thompson]

Higgy - was that your first ever contact with the woman you think is your birthmom??
If so, I think its quite understandable that she was hesitant to give anything away....I would have it a guess that you caught her off guard, completely.

Take it as a positive sign that she took your email address - thats got to be seen as a good thing.
If this is your birthmom ( and it seems you are quite sure) I would suggest you give her a bit of time to settle and process, in her time, what this contact really means.

I wouldn't be completely dis-heartened at this stage...it could be a simple case of her being completely overwhelmed by this contact for which she was unprepared for.

[Chantelle]

Hang in there!