[Jedidah]

Most people arrive at Adoption after years of fertility treatment, failed IVF cycles, miscarriage, Loss etc. It is a huge decision and by then most families are financially and emotionally drained.
I have spent the last few weeks contacting different Adoption Agencies and I have received loads and loads of PDF files and now I'm beginning to despair. Nearly every one of these agenices have provided a fee structure of about $30,000 to $40,000.00.
It's looking more and more hopeless since my husband and I do not have this kind of money and even if we did, after paying these fees, we would be left with nothing. I am aware of the Tax Credit and Employer benefits but that is still too much money for ordinary people. Since I cannot imagine going through life without a child, I am at my wits end.
Is there anyone else who finds themselves in my shoes?
Is there any advice you can give me on what to do?
I'm feeling very discouraged.

[Fe2002]

My fees were lower than 30k... I've sent you a PM with info on the agency I used. Good luck to you.

[Sleeplvr]

That's too much money. I'm assuming you are wanting an AA/biracial infant. When you contacted the agencies did you specify the race of the child you were seeking? When I first started calling I got ridiculous average wait times and high fees and it turned out the agencies were quoting for a healthy CC infant. I changed my tactic and let the agency know when I called what I was looking for and got a totally different response.
Since you are part of an interracial couple you are in demand and agencies should be courting you.


I used the same agency as Fe2002 and they use a sliding scale based on income.

[jcm]

Our agency is also one that does a sliding scale, and we paid about $17,000. I'll PM you the name!

[Hunterdon]

Many of the children in foster care are AA/biracial and the costs are absolutely minimal. I think I spent a couple of hundred dollars - mostly on physicals and that type of thing.

It's not for everyone, but it certainly is reasonable. Good luck with your journey.

[Jedidah]

I got a PM from Fe2002 with the name of the Agency. I contacted them yesterday and received a link with their information. The fees are reasonable so I am considering it although money is not going to be the only determining factor.
From my research, I did not think it would be this difficult because we are a biracial couple, but I can't be discouraged.
Thank.

[Bean421]

We are also an interracial couple looking for an affordable agency. Could you please PM me the names of any good agencies?

[vernellinnj]

My sister and I were just talking about the fact that cost prohibits many AA families from adopting. My agency also did a sliding scale but I'm certain I paid $25-30k considering finalization atty fees + miscellaneous. I purposely haven't added the receipts because I really don't want to know the total.

Good luck to you on expanding your family!

[GATI]

We are paying less than half of what the agencies quoted you initially. They are out there, so don't despair!

[blackman_253]

Can you pm the agency, we are looking to adopt also

[Barksum]

We aren't an AA or biracial couple, but we also didn't have much $$ for an adoption. We actually never considered domestic newborn/infant adoption, but planned to adopt from foster care due to our family history. (Dh aged out of foster care, so we were kind of more aware than the average person of the needs for adoptive families willing to adopt from foster care.) The costs we had to pay for our four separate adoptions were, in total, less than $3000.00. We adopted a child aged 2 or under each time.

[Tameka94]

Hi can you PM the agency you used? I'm new to the forum and looking to adopt. Thanks!

[Amber_James]

I am new to adoption.com. Please PM me information on adoption.


Thanks

[luv2teachmv]

Can you please pm me the information you got? Thank you

[orthodoxmom]

How do you find out what agencys are lower cost? If you ask an agency if they base their cost on your salary, will they tell you? We are concerned because my husband is a physician....BUT....we have a child ready to go to college in a year and are still paying his medical school loans and do NOT have money to be paying $40,000.... any thoughts?