[mzsumthing]

I originally got involved as foster/adoptive parent after learning a relatives children where in care of CPS. However, the maternal grandparents eventually decided to step-in to care for their grandchildren.

Two years later, I received a call out of the blue to consider adoption placement for my now son (2 1/2). I have to admit to being totally selfish about relinquishing freedoms of being single.

But, upon seeing my son's face, I could not bring myself to passing on being his Mothers. I was not given much time to consider and/or think about the adoption. I admit it was a during first 2 months for both of us to adjust to each other.

It has been a little of six months and all my friends (with and without children) are insisting it is time for me to start living again in the since of allowing time for myself. My Mother has also hinted it is time for me to resume a social life.

How do you balance a social life? I do not want my son expose to every person I date, nor will there be ANY uncles.

[vernellinnj]

I, too, am single with a young child. I do not expose him to any men that I am dating, period. He spends plenty of time with me and a few good male friends - and they are "uncles" because I see them as lifetime friends.

All I can say is BABYSITTERS - plain and simple. Talk on the phone after bedtime, etc. You'll find that you will only go out a few times a month and even then you'll really have to consider the person "worth it" .

Good luck - it really is possible.