[angeluv]

This was also posted on the General Parent Support Forum--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

[B]We initially planned to tell our son of his adoption as he approached mid to late 4 yrs old. We've mentioned it in general terms but not in reference to him. For us timing is everything now. Our plan has been de-railed by the shock of a serious illness. This illness' uncertainty has made us question whether now is the time to broach the subject. The greatest fear is the possibility of death of the parent whose ill. So what is better....our son has taken the illness as well as can be expected or is capable of understanding. Adding the adoption issue into the mix at this time scares us along with everything else going on in our lives. Any suggestions on timing........is it better to our son now as opposed to waiting to see the outcome of the illness which may be days, months, or maybe years. Anyone have any experience in this? I'm sure there may be information out there but right now I don't have the time to research. Pls help us and pray for our situation as well! Thanks Angeluv[/b]

[hotspice58]

The question with timing is if the ill parent dies, will the surviving parent be strong enough to tell the child he/she is adopted? It will be on one person instead of 2. Although I understand not wanting to tell child with one parent real sick. You and your family are in my prayers.