[zaye00]

Its taking forever before We can bring our baby girl home.I want her now. Has anyone else ever had to wait for ICPC.If so, how long? I going nuts.Cant sleep,thinking about Savannah!

[lisa in venice]

We had to wait 15 days for ICPC to clear but I went to OH to be with the baby. It sucked staying in a hotel without my family but it was a nice bonding time with Miranda. Why don't you just go and take custody?

lisa

[redhedded]

Hi Zaye, Your peanut is such a beauty! Thanks for sharing her photo.

We had to wait 40+ days, 10 (actually 12 day revocation, because the 10th day fell on Sat.) and 30 days to finalize in our dd's birthstate; there was a court snafu. Fortunately the three of us were together during the entire time from hospital discharge, in a corporate apartment, 2000 miles from home and our families. In retrospect, it was the greatest thing that could have ever happened; the bonding time and just being able to relax without obligations, interruptions or visitors was perfect for us.

I cannot imagine how hard it is if you are not with her. I am hoping that she is home with you soon. Wishing you peace and quick reunion.

[DebCsMom]

Our first adoption we had limited guardianship of her beginning the day she was born. We were able to begin ICPC at that time & we able to come home when she was discharged from the hospital at 1 1/2 days old. MI & home to WI.

Our 2nd adoption we had to wait for ICPC for only a fw days. The TPR papers were signed on a Monday & we got verbal clearance to leave IL on Friday.

Our 3rd was almost a nightmare. We were told no more than 2 weeks. As it got closer to that time & we began asking how much longer, we were then told it could be as long as 6 WEEKS!! That was in OH. Well with much fighting, we got home in 2 weeks. But it wasn't easy.

ICPC is different in all stats. It depends on the day it began, if there was a weekend or Holiday involved also. It's difficult I know, be as patient as you can.

GOOD LUCK

Deb

[zaye00]

I really am trying to be as patient as possible.Its jsut so darn hard. I miss her so much. Family is not making it any better.Everyday I get a call asking,have u heard anything yet?I keep telling them that as soon as I hear something I will call them.But still, they keep asking.

[AdrienneG]

Zay,


I would LOVE an update. I know this whole post was a year ago...but I'm curious because I'll be going thru the same thing when I fly to Maryland 3 days before Thanksgiving to be present for the birth of the baby and get the ICPC.

Love,
Adrienne

[Seanp454]

My wife and i resided in California and our son was born in Pttsburgh Pa Icpc took almost 30 days to complete.

[Marie8888]

I agree it really SUCKS!
Was getting to be with our son those first days after he was born worth it, YES! but . . .
We had to wait in a the tiny dimond of D.C. for two weeks with our son. Usually you have to stay in the state but since it is a district we had to stay in this tiny district. ( Most of what we think of as D.C. isn't really in D.C. but Maryland or Virginia) And on top of that if their is a discripency between two states in adoption laws, and you want to finalize in one state but the agency in the state where you child was born screws up royally you may have to go back and stay for the court date there. I will never adopt accorss state lines again, country maybe, state no way. It is rediculious! You think with as centralized as our government has become about everything else the least they could do is get adoptoin laws made national not state so adopting would be easier.

[joskids]

Hate to get political on you, Marie. Sounds like you have enough concerns at this point and I really do relate to what you are saying. Ask yourself, though, "since when has the government made anything EASIER on us?"!!! Hope your wait ends soon. You want your bonding to begin at your home and be a family as soon as possible and the waiting can seem endless.

Josie

[MargieMe]

At the time, I hated it and was scared to death of whatever the previous guests at the hotel had left and how it would infect my precious DS. Now, I look on it as the best 10 days of our lives. We had nothing to worry about except eating, sleeping, and looking into each others eyes. We were close enough (VA to MD--both around the Beltway--about an hour drive) that someone could have come out and delivered suppies if necessary, but far enough so that no one dropped by because "they just had to see the baby." I stayed in touch via cell phone, but could easily interrupt the conversation by saying "oops, gotta run."

I think that I might want to add a daughter at some time in the future and already miss having that uninterupted time together. After all, what would I do with DS and I will never have that much uninterupted time again--at least until they go to college.

[JosieWales]

New here...what is ICPC?

Becca

[lisa in venice]

Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children. It is the law that allows 50 states with different adoption standards codes and practices all agree to so that children can be placed for adoption across state lines. It basically says that a sending state (state where the baby is born) will agree to the laws involving the qualifications adoptive parents and safety of their home etc and the recieving state(state that the family liives in and will return to with the baby) agrees to the laws in the other state about birthparent relinquishments and stuff. In order for it all to work there is an office in every state that processes the paperwork. So the sending state has to go over the paperwork from your home state and approve it. THEN they send it along with the parework from that state back to your state and the ICPC office there has to approve it. In the meantime can not leave the sending state with the baby until paperwork has celared both states. Sometimes that can happen in two days and some times it takes weeks.

lisa

lisa