[Sheila4]

Hi.

I am new to this board. I have a son through adoption in 2001, and we were recently matched with a potential birthmother .... my dilemma is that she is not due until sometime in May.... we'll know more after her doctor's appointment in a couple weeks.

I have heard that such matches done this early are a risk for us because she may change her mind of course during this period and sortly following the birth of the baby.

The SW told us that she would like a very open adoption and would like to get to know us and have us participate in dr's appointment and the like during her pregnancy.

We were previously matched with a pregnant girl in September, but it fell through before we even met her. We both had mixed feelings from the start with that one and were really proceeding with caution. Our instincts tell us that this situation feels right, and I am hoping that it is not just our excitement clouding our thoughts.

We do know that she already has 4 children and she does have goals for herself to go to college and has occupational goals for the future, which are all good signs.

I would love to hear from some of you who have had a long match time and how it turned out. Any thoughts or opinions from any of you will be most helpful to me.

thanks so much,