[love4]

Sniffles,
My daughter has drained us also. Everything was about her. But sniffles, I love each of my 4 girls and I will always have time for each one of them. I have enough strength and love for each of them. I have to admit, that the quiet one sometimes gets put on the back burner and I can see how one would feel jealous. I try my best to make sure each one knows I am there for them. It sounds like you have wonderful parents and that they have room for you too.
My daughter ruined any relationship she could have had with my second oldest. Her anger lashed out at my daughter and hurt her to the point she doesn't want to deal with her anymore. Sad. She has hurt us so much and sometimes she wonders why I still love her but I do understand her struggles. Love builds bridges. I continue to try and build bridges.
Don't be afraid to ask your parents for help. I don't always know when the girls need something. I tell them to ask. Sometimes they hold their pain in so good I can't always see it. I need them to ask when they need a hug or help. Hugs.

[Sniffles]

Originally Posted by love4

My daughter ruined any relationship she could have had with my second oldest. Her anger lashed out at my daughter and hurt her to the point she doesn't want to deal with her anymore.

Unfortunatly, it is the same with my brother and I. He is thankfully in another state right now working, but he called me the other day just to tell me that he loved me. I replied that I love him to and he said thank you and started crying.

Now this is very much out of charactor for him so I immediatly called Dad and asked what is wrong with my brother. The only time he has ever done something like that is when he is depressed. Turns out he was just drunk (sorry to be blunt, but he was).

I may not care for his actions, or want to deal with him as little as possible, but I still love him. He is my brother and I bet your daughter still loves her sister no matter what.

I have learned that sometimes if people have a destructive person in their life, it is better to distance themselves as much as possible from that person so that their destructive behavior is not tearing up your own life.

[love4]

Just a thought sniffles..........I dont' drink so I don't know but I heard people say sometimes they drink to get the strength to do what they can't do sober?????