[Nalyd_loved_forever]

Wow, I wish I had found this a few months ago. The first couple of months after bringing our son home was surreal. I felt like I was on a long term baby sitting job or something. More than that I was totally unprepared. I kept wondering when the two of us would bond and feel like Mother and Son. He cried all the time which made bonding only harder. I cried all the time which caused lots of problems between me and my husband. Everyone told me I was too uptight and that my son was feeling that vibe. My mother really made me feel as if I was a failure, when in truth I already felt that way.

I started to question myself constantly. My husband and I had been alone in our marriage for nearly 12 years and I wondered if we had become too set in our ways. My son's pediatrician didn't help. She said let him cry. But my mother-in-law was a angel. She told me she had raised 3 children and she had felt this way with all three. She would swoop in at a moments notice to lend both emotional and physical support.

It will get better. It has for me. My son is no longer this little stranger. When he cries, the majority of the time I know why because his cries are different for different things. And now he can interact with both me and my husband. He laughs, smiles, and reaches for mommy or daddy. The bond has formed and there is absolutely nothing else like that love in all the world. Give it time. Take plenty of deep breathes and find a friend or relative to confide in. Also, take time for yourself. If you are refreshed, you can deal with so much more. My thoughts are with you and good luck.

[laughterkt]

I can relate to what you are feeling. We have a two month old (was a preemie so is really only about a month old)......
It is very difficult.....and at times you feel like you won't make it without sleep...AND now I have to go back to work next week! I am worried about that, but I feel that it may help some......
Sometimes it does feel all surreal......like walking around in a fog......
But I know even though it is so hard, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I keep telling myself, each part is just a phase that will pass....and she'll be all grown up.

Hang in there....You are normal! There are many others out there feeling the same way