[anina]

Hi! I have a 5 year old that we adopted at birth. His mom seems to really be putting distance between us and my son. I have been waiting for a phone call from her to tell me what time we can meet to talk and so far nothing. I feel sad for my son and do not know how to explain this to him. Please help if you can.

Anina

[SchmennaLeigh]

Anina; it sounds like you need to have a discussion with your son's birth mother. Even in well-working open adoptions, sometimes sit-down conversations about where each person is in their journey are needed!

She may be experiencing some other things in her life and needs some space to process. However, you just sitting around wondering doesn't do anything to provide security for your son, now does it? It's possible she hasn't considered that fact and she needs to be reminded! I suggest doing so in a non-confrontational manner, just asking her if she's uncomfortable with anything or if she needs some emotional support with current issues in her life. Gently remind her that her continued presence will provide that consistency in your son's life that you want for him. If she needs some space, encourage her to write monthly letters to your son at the very least.

Hang in there!!