[hopenpray]

We finished our homestudy and are waiting to be matched. Waiting has been so very hard. It's now August, and our agency told us adoptions have been down in our state. I'm not very hopeful that many adoptions take place during the holidays. Should I be getting ready for 2010? How did you past the time in the waiting?

[ebonvan]

I live in Canada and we've been waiting for 2 years. We have something in the works and if all goes well, we'll have a child by the fall. I blogged during my waiting period and tried to keep busy. Maybe now's the time to start a new hobby or travel?

[richmonder]

I know exactly how you both feel. We have been waiting for 6.5 months and it seems to get harder. I am trying to keep myself extremely busy but it sometimes does not help. I go through stages where I can be okay and not think about it, to thinking and obsessing about nothing else. I have been trying to do things around the house that I have been putting off so at least my house is getting completely cleaned.

ebonvan- Good luck and I hope you get that child!

[ebonvan]

I forgot to tell you my blogsite A Woman My Age. You may find it interesting. I've read many blogs from women in the US and they seem to get matched quickly. I also took an emergency first aid course for children and took a couple of parenting classes (which weren't that helpful since I don't have a kid yet) and for the longest time I didn't even want to be around children as it was too painful. Now, I feel ready to babysit and go into stores and start building a mental list of all the things I will need. I am also reading books on adoption, babycare, etc. I've talked to my friends about their experiences and asked them to help me - you're going to need support - just like any new mother would.

[megaphonemo]

Don't be too concerned about the holidays and no placements or matches. We were shown on Dec 17 (we found out at the agency holiday party), matched, and met DD#2s bfamily on Christmas eve... She thought she was farther along than she was so she was expecting to deliver any minute.... DD came along in FEB!! The hardest part was not telling everyone we saw over the holidays (after some failed matches and a disruption, we wanted to keep it closer to the vest than we had before, so we only told select people...) not that they kept it to themselves either way...

The holidays and cold weather are a stressful time, and emotional too....But it does happen....

By the way, now we make a point of trying to have a Christmas visit with DD#2s bfamily!!

Pass the time by doing things that you can't do easily once you have a baby.... Go out to eat at nice places, read a book, go to the movies..... i would not change a thing about life with my kids, but man, I miss going to the movies a lot!!

Mega

[bevy]

ebonvan we are in canada too. Where abouts are you? 2 of our kids have been adopted from the US as I couldnt imagine having a potential 5 year wait like we were told here!
The waiting is hard, even after 3 kids. I dont know if it is ever easy but doing things to keep your mind busy is the way to go! You might think it will be forever and then all of a sudden, you get a call that you will be parents! Hang tough, it will happen!

T

[ebonvan]

I am in Vancouver, T. We have (after almost 2 years) been matched with an expectant mother and now begins the slow process of waiting, waiting to see if it all works out like we'd like it to. And oh yeah, more money and paperwork than I thought was humanly possible