Does it ever get easier???

finallyamom0310 · #1 12-09-2008, 10:57 AM

I take DD to daycare three days a week and the other two she is home with DH. Most days are bearable to leave the house when she is with DH but there are still days that are terrible. I love my daughter and know I need to work for both financial reasons and sanity but I hate that she wants me and I can't be there for her.

As I was getting ready to leave for work this morning, I was hugging her and trying to say good bye. Her facial expression went from smiling to frowning. It was like I was watching it all in slow motion. Smile, frown, crying. UGH. I really wish I could be with her more and be everything for her that she wants me to be but I can't. I realize that. So... does it ever get easier? Does your heart ever stop breaking when you leave your kids?

kelceesmom · #2 12-09-2008, 11:55 AM

Ahhhhh I am sorry. Some of it is age related. Kelcee is 3 1/2 and still gets very upset when I leave her with my folks and she sees them every day. They tell me she settles down almost immediately when I leave. So, for me I am ok with the crying. I wish I could spend every waking moment with her but that isn't realistic. She will be ok. It's us moms I worry about LOL

finallyamom0310 · #3 12-09-2008, 12:23 PM

Maybe that is my real problem. ME. DH said she was fine shortly after I left but he coaxed her with her favorite show too. Then she got adventurous and ended up with a bump on the head. Ugh

minibus · #4 12-09-2008, 01:56 PM

Could it be that your DD is picking up on YOUR reluctance and reflecting that? I notice that if I make a big deal of leaving DD "Come give me a hug. I'm going to miss you!", then she gets upset. If I say "Bye bye. See you later!" then she goes about her day, no big deal. Just a thought....

finallyamom0310 · #5 12-09-2008, 02:28 PM

I have tried both methods. When I don't make a big deal she gets more upset when I am gone and for a longer time. When I say bye and ask for big hugs it is hard but not as hard. And of course at daycare it is very easy as I wait till she is ready to play with her friends.

Maybe I can get my DH to set up play dates for when I leave so she is destracted?

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