[MelWidner]

After years of trying to conceive, my husband and I recently adopted a newborn who is now 2 months old. I just found out that I am pregnant! I'm excited, dumbfounded, shocked, and any other adjective you can think of to describe utter disbelief and happiness.

However, I am terrified of being able to mother TWO babies under a year in age! There are times when my son is crying and I think to myself, "How am I going to do this when I'm 7,8,9 months pregnant? How am I going to do this with two babies at one time?!?" My son will be about 11 months old when the new baby is born. I am so freaked out right now!

I need advice and encouragement.

Sincerely,
Melissa

[finallyamom0310]

Melissa, no advice just sending hugs. It might be overwhelming now but you will figure it out. My SIL is pg with twins and so I know it can be done even though it seems like a lot.

[karen nickols]

Just jumping in to say congratulations. !!! Hope your pregnacy is smooth and easy and the joys of two wonderful. Just think two with sweet round cheeks and soft baby skin and that sweet smile that melts your heart. Blessings. Karen

[loveajax]

in my family, they call this ''irish twins!'' you will be just fine! congratulations!

[DancinBear63]

First of all, congratulations on your adoption and your pregnancy!

My husband is one of 7 kids, and I've always been amazed that his mom and dad had 6 boys in 6 years (including a set of twins). I still have no idea how they did it, but I guess you do the best that you can. I guess that by the time the second baby comes along, you'll be an expert on the first year, and probably more efficient than you are now.

By the way, my husband's parents waited 4 years, and finally got pregnant with their daughter, so 7 kids in 10 years- YIKES!!

[furrybluemom]

Congradulations. Having two babies at once is going to be difficult at times, but double the joy, love, fun, hugs, and cuddles. As the adoptive mom of twins, (came home at age 4) I enjoyed the preschool and grade school years since they were doing the same activities together. Will your kids be in the same grade at school? Enjoy being pregnant. Many of us wish we had the same "problem".

[abensonslaton]

Dearest Melissa,
Oh sweetie how I remember that feeling so well. Frist take a deep breathe. Yes it will be hard but oh the joy that it will bring. I adopted my oldest and when he was 9 months got pregnant with G2 and when g2 was three months got pregnant with g3. So I had three babies under 2 1/2 years of age. It was hard and to be honest super hard where I just kinda of laughed and cried thinking of the irony know that God had a plan and a sense of humor. My kids are now 4,3, and 2 and life is so much easier and full of joys, happiness and smiles. My kids are the happiest kids around and love each other very much and our super close. Yes they do fight a lot but they are fiercely protective of each other. It scary and anxious time when you are expecting your second child. Will I love the child? Will I have enough time? Will I love this child different than my adopted one? THe answer is yes, yes, and no. I love all my childern and apperciate every momment with the the bad, the good, the ugly, and superb!!!

[mamalove23]

Congrats!!! I had a similar shock about 4 months ago. My Husband and I adopted our first child, through foster care. Over the next couple years we always had him and a baby then we were asked to take a 11 month old who we had had for his first 6 months and he was coming back into care...we agreeed and found out we are pregnant the same week so right now I am 18 weeks prengant with a 2.5 yr old, 1 yr old, and 7 month old. When I delieve I will be blessed to have a 3 yr old, 1.5 yr old, 1 yr old, and the new baby!! There are some days where I just sit and stare and wonder what I was thinking but all the extra hugs, kisses, and smiles I recieve everyday make it worth it.

I am excited to hear how your journey goes.

[jp4ga]

Congratulations..... Your life will be full of excitement, how fun it will be to have two toddlers.

How will you do it, you ask.... You just will, thats what moms do. It will be hard, but hopefully you will have a healthy pregancy and your husband will help out. I am sure others in your life will also step up to help out when needed. Keep us updated.

[Jaaccks2008]

I know exactly what you are going through. It seemed like I could only carry a baby to term if I was in the middle of an adoption. My first two daughters are exactly two years apart (we fostered to adopt). But my third and fourth daughter's are only seven months apart! I found out I was pregnant the day I brought my third daughter home. Having four girls and really rough pregnancies we adopted a little boy. In the middle of his adoption I became pregnant AGAIN with a little boy! You have no idea what kind of blessing you have been given. I used to rest my third daughter on my belly while I fed her. I do remember being "tag-teamed" in the middle of the night. But what mother doesn't live through sleepless nights. It just gives us an excuse to snuggle with them and take a nap. After my second son (sixth child) I got my tubes tied. One of my daughter's bio-siblings was placed in foster care. I couldn't leave her there and after two years we are finally in probate court for her adoption. The funny part is she is right smack in the middle of my third and fourth daughter. So I have three six year olds within seven months of each other. Don't ever underestimate yourself. You will love having two children that close together...

[jalapeno]

How did I miss this thread? LOL! I hope all's going well with both your baby and your pregnancy. At one point I was pregnant AND had a newborn AND had a 13 month old. It was a little tiring. I absolutely love having my kids close together though! Life is so much fun.

[LJR1974]

We got pg while in process for our DS. Our DS from Guatemala came home at 20 months old 7 weeks after his baby brother was born.

I was really frightened about negotiating the attachment process of a newly adopted toddler while caring for a newborn. And I ain't going to lie--it was hard at first. REALLY hard. But within a few months we hit our stride (and when they both learned to sleep thru the night we were golden!).

You'll probably have your overwhelmed moments, but you'll get the hang of it!

[MelWidner]

Thanks everyone for the words of advice and encouragement. It is much appreciated. I wanted to give an update though....

After threatening for 7 weeks, I had a 2nd trimester miscarriage. We believe our baby boy is now in Heaven, and we pray that the Father takes great care of him until we can meet him face to face one day. We are sad of course, but are choosing to move forward and focus on the joys of our now 5 month old son, Judah. His adoption was finalized on Nov. 21!

Thanks again for the encouragement!
Sincerely,
Melissa

[jalapeno]

Oh wow . . .

Congratulations on finalizing!!!

And so very very sorry to hear about your loss.

[austintexas]

I've never been on a forum before, but signed up to get some advice. Here I am giving it. I have six children. 4 bio and 2 adopted. The 2 adopted are 11 days apart and my youngest bio is 5 months younger...basically triplets. I'm not the most patien person in the world and we manage to survive. You are going to do great. I really believe in the saying that God will only give you what you can handle. Had you gotten pregnant before you may have never considered adoption. Birthing your own child is going to be the most amazing thing. Just get help when you need it. You don't have to be super mom. Really rely on friends and family in the beginning. It will help you finding your balance. Good luck to you...you'll do great.