[kelceesmom]

Let's say your child is in his/her teenage years (15-17ish) and wanted you and their bmom/bparents to go on a vacation together would you be willing?

The hard part is you have only seen the bmom/bparents 2 times since your child was born. You have had minimal contact thru phone and email also. You really don't know these people. Would you be willing, for your child's sake to put your heart out their and spend a week with them?

[manni28]

No. I would need to meet and get to know them first. Just like anyone else I let into my child's life

[lmitch]

My ds birthfather is deceased so I will never know about him but I would absolutely go on vacation with Kyle's birthmom. Hopefully she would be able to bring her other kids and the family tree so to speak would grow stronger. I have developed a relationship with Chrissy over the years and I would be interested to know on more than just a cyber level as that is what our relationship is currently.

[kerrib]

Vacations can actually be very stressful if people don't agree on what they want to do, how much they want to spend, etc. And this is without the emotions involved in birthfamily/adoptive family relationships!

If you decide to do it, I would be very specific about housing arrangements, who pays, what expectations people have for sharing expenses, etc. If you like to lie on a beach and read, and everyone else wants to be constantly in motion, you could all end up miserable. If you are unsure of the finances, arrange to do something where you will not be caught unawares financially - ie stay at a hotel and make clear what charges are yours, etc.

Good luck.