[kelceesmom]

I know many of you are long in waiting to complete or add to your family. Do you feel it is worth the risk? So much heartache can come with the journey of adopting. Explain, if you can, why the risk is worth taking.

[sunshinecin]

Denice, We waited almost 3 years! We did some Iui's and 2 failed IVF's before really considering adoption. When we finally did our paper work and home study it was almost 2 years before we got our bundle of joy. Yes, there is heartache with birthmoms not selecting you or having someone pretend that they are pregnant while they frauded the agency and us for money. But once you have that SPECIAL child in your life you wonder what and how life was. Right now our daughter is 14 months old she's a handful!!!!!!! But we would LOVE to have another child so she can have a playmate/brother or sister instead of being the only child. I'm now looking for an easier way to do that. Our agency was okay only cause they were here on Kauai. But they messed up on alot of things so we really don't want that again!! But it would be GREAT to have another child!!!!!!!!! sunshinecin

[jacindalou]

We waited 5 yrs to be parents, from
the time of our infertile diagnosis to the day of our daughter's adoption. It was so worth the failed prospects, 2 kids who were returned to birth mom, and all the worry and concern about whether or not we'd be able to adopt our foster dd. When the judge said "I will sign your adoption papers" it was just totally

The only simple way to describe it would be to say that the love for the child makes it completely worth it, knowing that you completed the task and the child gets a second chance at having a productive purposeful healthy life.

[finallyamom0310]

For us it was almost 10 years of my wanting to be a mom and 6 IVF cycles, 2 miscarriages and all along, I knew if we didn't conceive, we would adopt. I can tell you that my DD is my life and she has made my life so full. The wait is worth it. It is stressful and very heartbreaking during the wait, but I can tell you, try not to think about it and it will happen before you know it.

[circap]

When our DD was born, we got pregnant without an issue at all and never thought we would have any problems having more kids like we wanted...well, ten years of trying later (along with quitting my job because doc stated "stress" was only cause and then having 2 miscarriages, I was ready for adoption ....
well, we now have our 7th child placed in our home (hopefully she will be ours forever) ... however, I would not trade one day that I had with the other six kiddos for anything.

I have people telling me "I don't know how you can keep doing it after they send them home". It isn't easy and I cry alot and I still think about them all but I know I had my part in their lives.

[moonbeam23]

Of course it's worth the risk. Anyone who has their child and loves them will tell you that. Anything in life that is really worthwhile generally involves some kind of risk, or a great sustained effort, or both.

[munketoes]

We waited two years for our son, and hope to finalize in July.

why is the risk worth taking.... easy answer....



MMMOOOOOMMMMMM ...... I NEED YOU! or
Mama, COME SEE THIS! or
I LOVE YOU da mostest, mostest...


sticky kisses.... surprises in pockets.... new adventures.... laughter... learning to read..... getting muddy.... finding bugs.....


I could go on and on...


Edited to add... Life doesn't come with guarantees.... when someone gets pregnant, there is no guarantee the pregnancy will go to term. no guarantee the child will be healthy..... even today there is not a guarantee that when our children get on the bus to go to school, they will come home.... IMHO... life happens even if you don't take chances... I firmly believe..... Work hard..... Play hard.... every day is a gift.

[webnana]

I have a daughter that is 37 now and 3 beautiful grandchildren that call me Nana and everyday of my life I am so grateful that God bless me with her so many years ago!!!! I had to go through 26 months of tests, interviews, home studies, & WAITING,WAITING,WAITING, but I'd do it all over again and anything else that they wanted for what I've got in return.

[slugbug0930]

Everything to this point was worth it once our little girl was placed in our arms.

Not being able to get pregnant, being told that it wouldn't happen probably ever & not being choosen to adopt by one potential birthmom.

Things turn out the way they are meant to.....and she was meant to be ours.

[tanmansmom]

The day we finalized after 18 months I finally understood what women meant after childbirth. During the process I swore I would never do it again because it was sooooo stressful, but the second we were final, I was ready to do it again. All the pain is forgotten and replaced with joy! I hope we have the opportunity to go through it again soon

[neaglesvm]

Originally Posted by munketoes

We waited two years for our son, and hope to finalize in July.

why is the risk worth taking.... easy answer....



MMMOOOOOMMMMMM ...... I NEED YOU! or
Mama, COME SEE THIS! or
I LOVE YOU da mostest, mostest...


sticky kisses.... surprises in pockets.... new adventures.... laughter... learning to read..... getting muddy.... finding bugs.....


I could go on and on...


Edited to add... Life doesn't come with guarantees.... when someone gets pregnant, there is no guarantee the pregnancy will go to term. no guarantee the child will be healthy..... even today there is not a guarantee that when our children get on the bus to go to school, they will come home.... IMHO... life happens even if you don't take chances... I firmly believe..... Work hard..... Play hard.... every day is a gift.

I think you summed it all up right there!