[buttercup1218]

Does anyone feel like me? I want more contact with our daughters bmom and I want our daughter to as well. Our daughter is almost 4. Her birthmom was not there for her 1st birthday celebration (she called 2 hours after the party was over and said she overslept) or really acknowledged it either. For the next two birthdays her bmom was in Korea in the Army. She has never sent K a card or gift or anything just because. She rarely asks about K, I have to initiate the conversation about her. K's bmom is scheduled to be deployed to Iraq in March of next year and I want more contact before then as you never know what can happen. Her bmom has been thru some rough times recently and I believe is going thru some feelings of regret. How do you all think I should broach this subject of wanting K to know who her bmom is and try to understand her "story" and to have more contact??

[kelceesmom]

Coming from a point where our bparents have chosen not to have contact I can give my opinion of how I would broach the subject.

I would be upfront and honest. The worst that can happen in my eyes is that nothing changes. Or, you might get lucky and everything change.

Good luck.