[Adopted-B-4]

Runyan2002-Just wanted to say, I never wanted to ever be a stay at home mom. I was/am an RN and absolutely loved my position. But when my children came along, the thought of leaving them broke my heart. I don't regret not working for anything. I have been there for all their firsts, and I am there any time they need me. We go on all kinds of outings with friends and I never get bored. Tired, but never bored! Plus, if you find yourself getting bored, there are so many mothers groups available and mothers morning out programs so that you can get your grocery shopping done and such! Money is of course a little tighter, but completely worth it! Honestly, my husband had the option of changing jobs and when I even mentioned possibly going back to work for the benefits, he was completely opposed, he loves me being here with the kids. I guess it depends on your finances and also, your personality too, I have some friends who say they would NEVER stay home and be with there kids 24/7. I think it has helped me to have my own hobbies outside of my children. I think moms who only tend to there children but never take moments for themselves, tend to get burned out with it much easier. That's just my thought!

[teendoc]

I am a very proud working mom descended from a family of working moms. (We are all doctors) I've heard the SAHM versus working mom debate for years. I knew that I would NEVER ever be a SAHM. It has never been part of my ethos and never been anything any of the women in our family have aspired to. We are all primary breadwinners in our families.

Yet so many people I knew gave me the smarmy, "When you're a mother, you'll understand," pat on the head. And when I finally became a mother, at 44, I was so glad to see that contrary to popular belief, people do know themselves and know what is best for them. I HATED staying home for two months. I love the baby, but hated the brain rot I felt without continuing to take part in my challenging career. I am so happy to be back at work, with little girl across the street in a fabulous day care (that I wish I could attend!). And for those who think I've done something wrong or heinous, screw them. The bottom line, and the point of this message is that you have to do what feels right to you. If you feel staying home is right, then do it. For me it was not and never will be the right choice. I'm just not wired that way.

Good luck with your decision!