[joskids]

THANK YOU, Maryann!!!!

[Linny]

Thank you Maryann for reminding us that we're real mommas!

Sincerely,

Linny

[reiscmi]

Hi - I am an 34 year old adoptee and I wanted to share my views on what you are saying. It seems that all adoptive mothers wonder about their validity as a mother to their child. I have seen my own mother struggle with this issue. I want all of you to know this. You are your child's mother. Yes their are going to be times your child hates you ( but like you said that will happen adopted or not) I am a mother of two children and my daughter has already told me she hates me. Talking to other mothers this is normal. But then the next day they turn around and tell you how much they love you. ALL OF YOU ARE YOUR CHILDRENS MOTHERS please don't spend too much time doubting this or fearing loosing your child. If you have alway been their for your child , which is seems like all of you love your children dearly, then your child will return that love. Being a mother is an action and it is hard work.
I am sure that all of you are living up to the challenge of being a mother. Even if your child one day would like to find her bmom (it should be acknowledged that your child has two moms - each one valid in their own right) it doesn't mean your child doesn't love you or consider you their mom. It is just a normal human curiosity to want to know where you came from.