[prettyfroggy]

This is a subject I struggle with Every day of my life. Here's a little background.

I met my husband when I was 2 months pregnant. I gave Bio father every chance to be part of DD life. However would not allow him to take her or have unsupervised visitation because he has a drug problem and has a daughter from a previous relationship her brought home to her mother smelling of Marijuana. So We did supervised visitation until she was 2 then he moved away and said he wasnt coming around because he had a warranty out for his arrest. DD had my last name so when my husband and I decided to get married she understood mommy and her were getting a new name. DD was now 5 and remembers going and getting adopted and meeting with the judge and getting her new name. We talk about adoption like its no big deal but without going into where babies come from Im not sure how and when to approach the subject in further detail. I know it will make no difference but I am not sure Bio father has gotten it together enough for her to underrstand if she did meet him. We are planning on telling her but we are not sure when would be best. So far I answer the questions she asks honestly but I guess I just worry. Any suggestions?

[KatiesEd-dad]

That's a tough one but I would start bringing the subject of her bio father up gradually (age appropriate for sure). Kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit for most of the time. You might want to start with a few of the basic birds/bees facts. We actually started talking about this one day when we stumbled across one of those child birth shows on Discovery Channel. My daughter was a little over 2 y/o and was fascinated by the babies coming out of the womens tummies. So we started with - it takes a man and a woman to make a baby and the baby grows in the mommies tummy and just took it from there. I wouldn't wait a whole lot longer to get this going.