[LuizBeth]

I guess I'm really confused right now. When I was 16 years old I found out I was adopted when I was 8 months old. I'm 25 now and am comfused on how I can get these feelings to go away. I was what you could consider a basket baby and never knew my real parents. I was in an orphanage until I was adopted. I have a loving adoptive family and I love them very much but I can't get these thoughts out of my head. I know it was for the best because who knows where I may have ended up at but sometimes it just becomes painful. I know that God put me into the family I have and gave me my own family but I can't stop thinking the dreaded "but why"? I guess I just need to talk though these things but it's so hard to try to talk to my parents about this. I don't want to hurt them by bringing this up and have them feeling hurt or anything. Sometimes I wish I could find my real parents but I know that it will be next to impossible to find them because of how they let me go. Plus it was so long ago. I will take any advice anyone has to offer. Thank you.

[Here to Help]

Hi there! Just read your message and was really touched because I have had these same feelings and especially at your age. I have done a lot of research and self search and would love to talk to you. It really does take someone who understands to be able to feel what you are feeling. Hang in there!

[tricia3]

Do you know where you were born?

[emsd55]

I was adopted at an early age myself. I was 2 years old when my adoption became final. Unfortunately, with my adoption, I cannot find out who my real parents are because my records are sealed. Due to medical reasons, I needed to find out my medical information. My adoptive parents were not given to much info on medical. I had spoken to my adoptive parents about finding out this information, and they were very supportive about it. Unfortunately, in my case, I found out very little. I got vague information on my biological mother, which I did not want. Talking to your adoptive parents go either of two ways. One it would be hard on them, or two, it might be okay. If you decide to find your real parents and you do not say anything to your adoptive parents, it could be devastating to them. Please don't take what I am saying the wrong way. Talking to your adoptive parents may help. Good luck with your decision and hope everything works out for you.