[dragonfly1234]

Do you find yourself worrying about your adopted child a lot more than your bio??

[Scrapsathome]

In some ways I worry about my (possibly to be adopted next year) child more than I do my bio kids. I don't know what her future holds. I worry that she won't outgrow some of her current behaviors. I worry that, not having had the foundation that my bio kids had, she will have a harder time with relationships when she is older. Then there is also just maturity/responsibility worry. I can confidently leave my two bio daughters alone for an hour in their room and not worry about what they are doing. My FD could be up to almost anything. Even though she's almost 4, I still have to treat her like my 17 month old son. Constant vigilance.

So, yes, there are differences. But then there are differences between my bio kids, too. I worry more about my younger daughter than I do about my older one. Some of it is just personality differences. Since I can't control the future, I just have to conciously decide to give it to God. I know He works all things to the good of those who love Him.

Jess

[lilraskels]

You know this is a good question. I do worry about all of my kids. It is much in the ages and stages. It just so happens that the older two are adopted and yes, I do worry about them. I worry about if thier bparents came would they go. I worry about the reunion if and when it comes. I worry about keeping communication with their parents so they will not have to search. But most of all I worry about the normal things you would with a 16 year old and a 12 year old. Teaching them the life lessons that they need to suceed. I don't think this is becasue they are adopted it is just a mother that wants the best for her babies.

[mrsred]

This is an old thread, but I hadn't seen it before.
It is a good question,and I will have to answer yes. But then my biological child has had every advantage from the start. On the other had, both my adopted kids and my foster to adopt daughter have had such hard beginiings. I do what I can to retrain, but it is not an easy task.
I mostly worry about my older daughter because she is so easily led.