[dragonfly1234]

I always wanted to adopt. I have no desire to be pregnant.

[HansenFamAZ]

I wanted both since I was little. I was able to have two biological children. I can't have any more. I have adopted two children.

When I see pregnant woman I wish I could be pregnant again. When I am in the delivery room with family or my little ones' bmoms I want to be pregnant again. It makes me sad sometimes that I can't.

When I see pregnant woman I want to adopt again too! =)

[aspenhall]

I don;t think it happens to everyone, but I too, have little to no desire to get pg. And seeing a pg woman makes me wanna adopt as well!!

[musemoon]

I absolutely one hundred percent wanted to be pregnant! I thought about it everyday, for twenty years, until I adopted....now I only want to adopt. In fact I pray I don't get pregnant so that if I was going to have more than two (adopting again next year) it would be another adoption.

I am a foster/adoptive parent and after reading what my beautiful daughter's life would have been like, I want to adopt and not be pregnant. I do miss the feeling of pregnancy, but when I am feeling that I just wear my kiddo in her Mai Tei...we both love it!

[ashleyca]

No, I loved being pregnant. It took me a long time to accept that I could not carry any more children and even longer to not be upset by it.

[dragonfly1234]

(((Ashleyca)))....I to went thru all the same steps you have.

[joelynn]

Well...like many I always wanted to be pregnant...after 4 pregnancies in 2 years...2 premies and 2 early miscarriages...our first born lived 15 days. I can truly say I do not have pregnancy envy at all. We adopted 2 children after all of that knowing that my success rate wasn't good. The one thing I tell people when they ask is I didn't have to go through the pregnancies.

[jaenelle]

Have basically always known it would either be very hard or impossible to get pregnant, so it hasn't really been a big desire for me.

I just really wanted to be a mommy.

[nikkianni]

I've wanted to adopt for as long as I can remember. I was never interested in being pregnant. I guess I just knew what was right for me.
Luckily I found DH, and now we have our Angel Bug, and I was right all along, this is perfect!

[AudreyE]

I went through a brief "mourning" period when I figured out pregnancy was unlikely.

Now, 15 years later, I could care less. In fact, if I got pregnant now, I'd probably be upset... (sounds wierd, I know)...

Audrey

[bajj]

I always wanted both, but that wasn't in God's plans. I have to sometimes remind myself that His plan is bigger and better than mine, but most of the time, I'm perfectly fine without having bio kids. It's not even the biology I desired, it was to experience pregnancy. However, I was too chicken and felt weird about donor egg or adopted embryos. Those choices just weren't right for dh and I, nor was IVF. We decided adoption was a much better option for us than the other choices. I don't know if I could have handled IVF if it hadn't been successful and since there's no guarantee, I couldn't put myself or my husband through that.

So, no, I am not one who didn't care about pregnancy. I would have loved to have experienced it, but more importantly than that, I am experiencing Motherhood and all it's wonderfulness.

[joskids]

I've given birth to 4 and adopted 4. And HONESTLY, it really would never have mattered to me if all 8 had been adopted. I wanted children. It was up to God how they came. I'm glad He is in charge. I probably would have screwed it up anyway!!

[mrsred]

I always wanted kids. Multiple kids.
God gave us one bio, but when it came time for more we were not interested in another baby. Been there, done that.

[Linny]

I suppose somewhere back in time, I thought I'd want to be pregnant; but also---way back there, I also told everyone I wanted to adopt.
We never tried to get pregnant, and actually---AudreyE, I DO understand your comment about 'being upset if you did get pg'! (There was a brief time I thought I was, and I wasn't too thrilled about it...)

The ONLY advantage I ever saw for us to be pregnant, was that it would have been MUCH easier---rather than dealing with the ups and downs of the adoption road. As for the attention and such this society gives to pg women--------well yeah.....THAT surely would have been a plus....but on the other hand, I've never understood WHY there's all the attention in the first place!
Just my thoughts......

Sincerely,

Linny

[Hipi]

When I was younger I wanted to get pregnant... I always wanted kids & that was just the main otpion I had, although adopting was somewhere in the back of my mind always.

I think if I were to have a healthy pregnancy & a healthy baby I would be overjoyed, but so much can go wrong, especially the older you get. I am in my thirties now & I just have no desire to get pregnant now. It seems to me that it would be too big a strain on my body & that would effect the baby. I don't really mourn it though. For me it's not a big loss.

Because of my religious beliefs I did question this about myself... is this right? I was given the honor of bearing a child & I don't want to use it. Am I taking this honor for granted? But there is this stronger feeling that reminded me that it's just as honorable to love a child unconditionally when it is not mine biologically as is it to bear a child. So, the guilt is gone. I'm cool with it.